Many of us have a habit and must have possibly noticed that we keep demanding different things that suit us , rather than check and see if it is feasible for others to deliver.Especially at Home.Many of us treat it like a 365 days ,24x7 Kitchen that churns out an assorted menu as per our whims and fancies, with least consideration for the lady of the kitchen who too works and slogs more than the male.
Those of us who have maids and servants at their beck and call are exceptions to this though they too indirectly harass the person asking,probably demanding, not requesting,for your wishlist as and when you want expecting them to be at your service all day long.
Let me give you some examples to connect well.When one gets up in the morning and one expects tea to be served as bed tea this is what happens.If it doesn't come when you decide to get up you blow your top of.If it comes in time but with not the right taste or sugar or say not hot enough you again go mad.If it comes in a cup and saucer you want it in a mug.If it comes in a mug you want that red mug only.Then the cup or the teas suddenly smells or tastes different.Some of us want tea at say 30 minutes past you waking up.Some want it after the shower.Then comes breakfast.I need oats, i need toast but lightly toasted and brown bread and only margarine and not butter with trans fat or maybe the toast that is buttered end to end with no empty spaces!!!!!!!
Some suddenly decide when the whole world wants tea , you want coffee only.That too the filter one and not the branded coffee etc etc.What rigidity with no feelings for the person in the kitchen doing this balancing act.End of the day does anyone thank that person who is a working woman and somebody's daughter, wife, mom who has many other chores to do???
How mean we are?We don't empathize nor relate or step into the shoes of this modern day working woman who undergoes much more stress than most of us.
Can we learn to adjust and help or apply a lot of commonsense and move our backside to help in there so that life becomes a lot easy.
If one has so many ifs and buts and dos and don't s they can go have breakfast in a restaurant and shell a bomb, which they will be reluctant to as it burns a hole in their wallet.Moreover that kitchen also has a break. Hope people realize and learn to accommodate than just place orders.
So true! It essentially boils down to Compassion - the English one :)) Most of us have the Hindi one, kum-passion (less passion) for others. Only when there is no feeling of "otherness" the less-passion grows to jyada-passion and finally evolves into the True Compassion. Then there is only Love for all.
ReplyDeletePhew - we may have very well found the answer to the World Peace problem!!!