On one of the busiest connections between Delhi and Mumbai is a place called Bharuch, in Gujarat state.The tons of traffic, especially heavy containers moving up and down boosting the ever growing economy of the country is the life line for many companies.The Golden quadrilateral ,the pet road project which started a few years ago and a game changer that improved the face of transport route across the country is the best thing that happened to this country.
All this worked well and the traffic surged, occupying the 6 lanes carting volumes of goods daily.But, all good things choke and as usual the administration adds flavor to it.Bharuch has a bridge section and the need of the hour is to route all the traffic in a disciplined manner in the constriction through which the traffic has to pass.Now, we Indians are extremely busy and have no time for ourselves and care two hoots for others!!!The impatience that prevails in the minds of most Indians , then comes to the fore and that leads to CHAOS!!!Every guy almost takes off in all possible directions in his prized 4 and 2/3 wheelers, except the fields of sugarcane and cotton ( thank god, or the economy would have been crushed!!!).
Now since no one wants to wait, what otherwise would take 15 odd minutes, messes up 2 hours plus of 5000 plus Indian Commuters every day almost, on an otherwise fantastic expressway.What a shame!
Then one gets a brainwave and takes the side lanes through the city trying to get across over the GOLDEN bridge built by the British( thanks to the queen)which is over 150 years old .The only issue being single lane traffic,one has to drive with side view mirrors collapsed and praying so that you reach the other side without a scrape.Looks good and you start off to find that there too everyone decided the same as you:((.There again comes my brother Indian, and rushes into an imaginary space trying to reach first at the starting blocks.This in turn jams the on coming traffic and there we go.............a mess!!!People in India love a snack called Chaat Masala, and ragda puri.Thats what happens in this traffic jam.They love to bask in there.Why this kolaveri-di????????
After a big ordeal you some how get across, high beams, a broken down mobike on the bridge, a absolute hyper driver measuring every gap between 2 cars as he drove,created enough excitement to somehow reach the main trunk route .
WOW .Guess what this has been happening for months now and every body screams and we keep getting habituated to still keep doing the same.B'cos, we Indians believe in being constant-and Change is constant.So we keep changing lanes, if we don't get one we create lanes.CREATIVITY AT ITS BEST, WHERE NOT REQUIRED.
who knows at this pace we might import another bridge from the UK and install it aside the golden bridge as a solution.
Monday, 30 January 2012
chameleon
Its nice to stay in a colourful world ,how true.But when people keep changing colours then one wonders are these the aura effects ,the human factor!!One happens to see this in every day life.We term them differently and also decide our reactions based on that or just laugh it off and forgive them.
I had one such encounter at a function recently where you come across the entire relations network that were present in their true colours!!When i say the relations network ,I am talking about the host of relatives we have, who flock together on such occasions inspite of being located in different places.On the outside i saw beautiful people with a colourful dress sense(not all though), in their most characteristic and traditional presence. The generations , in fact,1st, 2nd , 3rd in varying outfits all out to impress upon the people around of their true wealth-materialistic and otherwise.Some had fancy wide bodied branded cars,but congested intentions that jam the minds,eyes with a foggy vision ,and lacking awareness and true intent.Some having created spaces for themselves that only accommodate themselves( with or without loved ones). It doesn't matter what happens to the others.I,Me and myself.Some cousins have a weird,probably sadistic,maybe even jealousy driven habits of constantly looking down upon you.Every opportunity you get , pop comes a sarcastic,nasty comment without a hint of regret.What do people get in doing this?Once in a while and odd joke is acceptable ,but a repeat performance just to show you are better.......????????
Some Breezing in and breezing out ,exchanging pleasantries like the politicos do and looking at opportunities as how to connect and make the best of the situation,with little or no feelings.Many who come , stay and enjoy the hospitality for free and assume that well its my right kinds.Informing the hosts that we are coming or just crash land just doesn't exist in their jam packed itinerary .Some whiz past and without checking out the convenience of the hosts take it for granted that the kitchen is a place that keeps churning out your wishes at the drop of a hat.Reciprocity, yes may be the superficial kinds and when you do get a chance to experience the same you get "shocked" .The treatment given to you in case of reversal of roles is a pity.
There are some who come as if they have come to mourn at a funeral and not attend a wedding.Meet them and they talk greek and are out of tune on a different channel all together gossiping about how bad the world is and how true and innocent he or she is.They are always negative and spread so much of pessimism that one wonders is it really worth living!!!Yes it is worth living and making every moment of yours a gem in the string of pearls you weave every time.
The parties involved are many a times disconnected.Inspite of all odds and circumstances one is facing due to ill health ,the sheer grit and will power makes that person stand up and make the event a successful one.The partner may be supportive or not, the desire to make the event a success, burns deep within the doer.Lack of planning, coordination from Gen -x inspite of degrees from the US were serious flaws in there.Logistics, simple routing and involvement were amiss.Coordination and time lines plus the superiority complex given by the major contributor at that event reduced the first party almost to a mere spectator.We had Mexican, Australian and many euro-US flavors on the invite list, and so was the food.Wish people had more empathy and awareness, passion and desire to make the dreams of one lady ,a dream come true.
Having successfully accomplished her dream of her daughter getting married ,inspite of her health hazard,and the above oddities,this lady now sets for her next battle-fighting cancer in the next few days.Hats of to her .May she have a long and happy life.God bless.A true survivor indeed.Can we add true colour to her dreams with no expectations in return??
I had one such encounter at a function recently where you come across the entire relations network that were present in their true colours!!When i say the relations network ,I am talking about the host of relatives we have, who flock together on such occasions inspite of being located in different places.On the outside i saw beautiful people with a colourful dress sense(not all though), in their most characteristic and traditional presence. The generations , in fact,1st, 2nd , 3rd in varying outfits all out to impress upon the people around of their true wealth-materialistic and otherwise.Some had fancy wide bodied branded cars,but congested intentions that jam the minds,eyes with a foggy vision ,and lacking awareness and true intent.Some having created spaces for themselves that only accommodate themselves( with or without loved ones). It doesn't matter what happens to the others.I,Me and myself.Some cousins have a weird,probably sadistic,maybe even jealousy driven habits of constantly looking down upon you.Every opportunity you get , pop comes a sarcastic,nasty comment without a hint of regret.What do people get in doing this?Once in a while and odd joke is acceptable ,but a repeat performance just to show you are better.......????????
Some Breezing in and breezing out ,exchanging pleasantries like the politicos do and looking at opportunities as how to connect and make the best of the situation,with little or no feelings.Many who come , stay and enjoy the hospitality for free and assume that well its my right kinds.Informing the hosts that we are coming or just crash land just doesn't exist in their jam packed itinerary .Some whiz past and without checking out the convenience of the hosts take it for granted that the kitchen is a place that keeps churning out your wishes at the drop of a hat.Reciprocity, yes may be the superficial kinds and when you do get a chance to experience the same you get "shocked" .The treatment given to you in case of reversal of roles is a pity.
There are some who come as if they have come to mourn at a funeral and not attend a wedding.Meet them and they talk greek and are out of tune on a different channel all together gossiping about how bad the world is and how true and innocent he or she is.They are always negative and spread so much of pessimism that one wonders is it really worth living!!!Yes it is worth living and making every moment of yours a gem in the string of pearls you weave every time.
The parties involved are many a times disconnected.Inspite of all odds and circumstances one is facing due to ill health ,the sheer grit and will power makes that person stand up and make the event a successful one.The partner may be supportive or not, the desire to make the event a success, burns deep within the doer.Lack of planning, coordination from Gen -x inspite of degrees from the US were serious flaws in there.Logistics, simple routing and involvement were amiss.Coordination and time lines plus the superiority complex given by the major contributor at that event reduced the first party almost to a mere spectator.We had Mexican, Australian and many euro-US flavors on the invite list, and so was the food.Wish people had more empathy and awareness, passion and desire to make the dreams of one lady ,a dream come true.
Having successfully accomplished her dream of her daughter getting married ,inspite of her health hazard,and the above oddities,this lady now sets for her next battle-fighting cancer in the next few days.Hats of to her .May she have a long and happy life.God bless.A true survivor indeed.Can we add true colour to her dreams with no expectations in return??
Tuesday, 24 January 2012
identity crisis
A beautiful girl, full of fun and energy, lot of vibrance and very lovable.Ability to carry herself well,well educated and mixing and meeting people and looking forward to a journey in life that would be complementing her dreams.
Then comes the phase of her life when she meets up with the partner she wishes to make these dreams come true and shifts location from her hometown a 1000 kms away.That is where the journey of life changes tracks and the momentum slows down.It appears as if she lives for others with no voice of her own.She chose to as an ideal Indian woman from the yesteryears.Is that the way one should sacrifice his or her life?Why?When you have one life and God wants you to live that life then why be burdened and shackled in this , living for someone else.Huge sacrifice she has made,not uttered a word,though well educated ,preferred to take the back seat.50 years into this life and more she knows what she wants and yet unable to express it.Meet her alone and she shows those signs of cheer and a facade that she still has that vibrance.But deep within she is hurt and that reflects on the kids too.They want to protest and show signs of defiance which after sometime might erupt.The partner oblivious to all this and with a fixed mind set wants his way all the way.Is that the sheer male ego or the failure to accomplish what he had set out to do and unleash those frustrations here?
Midway in her journey , i recommend she changes course and drive back shedding all the inhibitions, dead weight, the fossils and the dead wood accumulated over the years and start a fresh within the defined space which she is comfortable and live for her self .Its never too late but yes,its earlier the better.I don't know if i am right or wrong in expressing my views as all i would like to see her is bloom in the second half of the life story and try and make her dreams come true where ever possible.God be with her and give her the strength and courage to take on the oddities in life.
Then comes the phase of her life when she meets up with the partner she wishes to make these dreams come true and shifts location from her hometown a 1000 kms away.That is where the journey of life changes tracks and the momentum slows down.It appears as if she lives for others with no voice of her own.She chose to as an ideal Indian woman from the yesteryears.Is that the way one should sacrifice his or her life?Why?When you have one life and God wants you to live that life then why be burdened and shackled in this , living for someone else.Huge sacrifice she has made,not uttered a word,though well educated ,preferred to take the back seat.50 years into this life and more she knows what she wants and yet unable to express it.Meet her alone and she shows those signs of cheer and a facade that she still has that vibrance.But deep within she is hurt and that reflects on the kids too.They want to protest and show signs of defiance which after sometime might erupt.The partner oblivious to all this and with a fixed mind set wants his way all the way.Is that the sheer male ego or the failure to accomplish what he had set out to do and unleash those frustrations here?
Midway in her journey , i recommend she changes course and drive back shedding all the inhibitions, dead weight, the fossils and the dead wood accumulated over the years and start a fresh within the defined space which she is comfortable and live for her self .Its never too late but yes,its earlier the better.I don't know if i am right or wrong in expressing my views as all i would like to see her is bloom in the second half of the life story and try and make her dreams come true where ever possible.God be with her and give her the strength and courage to take on the oddities in life.
Monday, 23 January 2012
time kill
When one reaches the threshold of life and then however you struggle,and try to be independent ,you have to depend on your partner,friend,companion,etc.especially when health doesn't support you and forces you to depend on others, then it becomes a real test of time.
One has 24hrs to spend every day.You can sleep from 2200 hrs and even if you wish to, your eyes open up early ,maybe @6 am,most of the time.Now the day has to start.Maybe the oral hygiene,followed by a cup of tea and medicines if any and post that reading the newspaper end to end consumes 2hours.The bath and your other activities take out the next hour may be.Now starts the ordeal. What can one do from say 1000-2200 hrs?
Meeting friends,speaking on phone,afternoon siesta,stand in the sun, chat with the neighbors ,have lunch,watch TV and the sad news channels reporting crime, murder etc stretches you to the limits.Still its mostly you and yourself for company.The folks at home go to work,school,college,or any other chore.You, if fit and fine can engage yourself in some sundry work,but not many can or are in a position to do so.Commuting is another issue for many .
It is indeed a big concern and the people who care for you are more worried about your whereabouts especially when inspite of cell phones etc you are handicapped due to the technical difficulties at times.If one can afford, you can have many servants ,but they should be reliable.If not things get worse.
Me personally ,I would not like to be a burden on anyone and though its not in my hands 100% i think we all must try to plan our lives past the threshold .The sheer boredom might lead to depression and time will kill someone when he tries to kill time.I have tried to reason out and see within the mind space of a few such people and just pitying them is wrong.Finding a solution to keeping them engaged is tough , but a necessity for sure.As life gets tougher,we need to be better prepared.
One has 24hrs to spend every day.You can sleep from 2200 hrs and even if you wish to, your eyes open up early ,maybe @6 am,most of the time.Now the day has to start.Maybe the oral hygiene,followed by a cup of tea and medicines if any and post that reading the newspaper end to end consumes 2hours.The bath and your other activities take out the next hour may be.Now starts the ordeal. What can one do from say 1000-2200 hrs?
Meeting friends,speaking on phone,afternoon siesta,stand in the sun, chat with the neighbors ,have lunch,watch TV and the sad news channels reporting crime, murder etc stretches you to the limits.Still its mostly you and yourself for company.The folks at home go to work,school,college,or any other chore.You, if fit and fine can engage yourself in some sundry work,but not many can or are in a position to do so.Commuting is another issue for many .
It is indeed a big concern and the people who care for you are more worried about your whereabouts especially when inspite of cell phones etc you are handicapped due to the technical difficulties at times.If one can afford, you can have many servants ,but they should be reliable.If not things get worse.
Me personally ,I would not like to be a burden on anyone and though its not in my hands 100% i think we all must try to plan our lives past the threshold .The sheer boredom might lead to depression and time will kill someone when he tries to kill time.I have tried to reason out and see within the mind space of a few such people and just pitying them is wrong.Finding a solution to keeping them engaged is tough , but a necessity for sure.As life gets tougher,we need to be better prepared.
Saturday, 21 January 2012
mellowdrome
In life one goes through many cycles.We come across situations where you befriend people, hate people, fight, love etc etc.Circumstances take you to almost breaking point and we end up destroying relationships.We don't communicate for years sometimes and somehow miss the point that what we may have lost by doing this deed.
We have one life and one big king sized ego.To feed that we take great pleasure in running down the other person and proving it to the world that" look what an @#@#@# I am".Later on in life one does come across situations where we find ourselves bumping into these same people at some point of time .What happens then?
We may have greyed,even created an airfield on our head where the mind games are played.The only difference being one may have matured, mellowed, decided to reason out things in a better and subtle way, and thereby mend fences, forgive and more.Its not that one did a big favor or anything special, its all that you made another soul happy.The amount of hate, pain, disgust you generate in this one life time beats you at the end .Why then create these in the first place?Why not let those hot blood springs rushing through the veins and vessels be calmed and pacified before they erupt.The energy of the young and the maturity of the salt peppered kinds packed together gives you immense peace, if used at the appropriate times .
Let that mellow drome be created by one and all,early in life for a splendid takeoff and landing in the creative airspace that would build bridges of love and happiness and destroy hate and anger.
We have one life and one big king sized ego.To feed that we take great pleasure in running down the other person and proving it to the world that" look what an @#@#@# I am".Later on in life one does come across situations where we find ourselves bumping into these same people at some point of time .What happens then?
We may have greyed,even created an airfield on our head where the mind games are played.The only difference being one may have matured, mellowed, decided to reason out things in a better and subtle way, and thereby mend fences, forgive and more.Its not that one did a big favor or anything special, its all that you made another soul happy.The amount of hate, pain, disgust you generate in this one life time beats you at the end .Why then create these in the first place?Why not let those hot blood springs rushing through the veins and vessels be calmed and pacified before they erupt.The energy of the young and the maturity of the salt peppered kinds packed together gives you immense peace, if used at the appropriate times .
Let that mellow drome be created by one and all,early in life for a splendid takeoff and landing in the creative airspace that would build bridges of love and happiness and destroy hate and anger.
Friday, 20 January 2012
x-cuse
People in this world have an excuse for almost anything you may ask.If one doesn't want to do it , there is an excuse.However frivolous it may be.They have no qualms or remorse in stating it .Some sheepishly, some bluntly.This is one place where mankind's creativity is at its best.They can get away with murder.
Why do we really need these?Does that really help?If it helps momentarily, its gonna blow up one day.It doesn't last long and trying to use it at the wrong place at the wrong time will recoil.In every day life we avoid some people, we forget to meet somebody or do his or her work and then pile up excuses how to maneuver through the situation that you have created.
If we admit and say " hey , sorry , i goofed up.My apologies.I will get that done right away, this probably will go a long way.Is it out of fear that we stay away from the truth?Does it really sort the matter?What if it becomes a habit? You ask someone why a certain thing wasn't done and pat comes the reply" I was going to do it but........................................!!!!!We don't wish to own an action and stay away from results.Some like to make a small issue so big that it could fly at 36000 feet like a hot air balloon challenging a 747 mid air.
God bless these people and help drive sense and wisdom so that the world becomes a better place to live in.
Why do we really need these?Does that really help?If it helps momentarily, its gonna blow up one day.It doesn't last long and trying to use it at the wrong place at the wrong time will recoil.In every day life we avoid some people, we forget to meet somebody or do his or her work and then pile up excuses how to maneuver through the situation that you have created.
If we admit and say " hey , sorry , i goofed up.My apologies.I will get that done right away, this probably will go a long way.Is it out of fear that we stay away from the truth?Does it really sort the matter?What if it becomes a habit? You ask someone why a certain thing wasn't done and pat comes the reply" I was going to do it but........................................!!!!!We don't wish to own an action and stay away from results.Some like to make a small issue so big that it could fly at 36000 feet like a hot air balloon challenging a 747 mid air.
God bless these people and help drive sense and wisdom so that the world becomes a better place to live in.
Wednesday, 18 January 2012
client connect
In our daily routine we come across various people.A few known and many unknown.People connect based on the level of comfort they feel and the space given and taken by the individuals involved in communication.Verbal and Non verbal gestures make that happen and its so critical , especially those few minutes at the start that they make or break bonds and relations.
It happens to all of us and we react to the circumstances that are created by these people.For example, one is required to meet say xyz gentleman and resolve his concern....1)Some do it because " My boss wants me to do it" 2). Some for the process adherence part of it, 3)and some just because i have nothing much to do so let me chat up kinds!!!.Now the most important aspect of all this is " Is your heart and soul into it?Do we have any feelings behind it?Am I passionate about doing it?..............
How can one connect with no emotions, no energy , no desire to make something happen or to create and add value. I come across many of them who have a dual personality and are very expressive in a known environment but simply freeze and get into a shell without exploiting the situation in your favor when they meet strangers.Some come out expressionless , plain dumb where even the fly would hesitate to land on the facial plateau.Some are good looking but with zero facial muscles they go with a duh!!what hit me expression.Some go back and forth as if they are singing rock a bye baby on the tree top .This exhibition of very sloppy and superficial emotions leads to nowhere and ends up being a futile exercise in relationship building.Many businesses today measure the level of satisfaction and delight on various attributes and one finds that its ultimately the people in the system that make the difference and not the process necessarily.
You may have the best systems but heartless people to run it. You may be privy to the best processes laid out in the world but when it comes to deliverance its the heart that connects and says" that's what i was looking for!!!
Bridges connect, thoughts connect, touch connects,hearts connect.Some are physical and others virtual.The meaning is given by the intent and passion behind establishing it.
It happens to all of us and we react to the circumstances that are created by these people.For example, one is required to meet say xyz gentleman and resolve his concern....1)Some do it because " My boss wants me to do it" 2). Some for the process adherence part of it, 3)and some just because i have nothing much to do so let me chat up kinds!!!.Now the most important aspect of all this is " Is your heart and soul into it?Do we have any feelings behind it?Am I passionate about doing it?..............
How can one connect with no emotions, no energy , no desire to make something happen or to create and add value. I come across many of them who have a dual personality and are very expressive in a known environment but simply freeze and get into a shell without exploiting the situation in your favor when they meet strangers.Some come out expressionless , plain dumb where even the fly would hesitate to land on the facial plateau.Some are good looking but with zero facial muscles they go with a duh!!what hit me expression.Some go back and forth as if they are singing rock a bye baby on the tree top .This exhibition of very sloppy and superficial emotions leads to nowhere and ends up being a futile exercise in relationship building.Many businesses today measure the level of satisfaction and delight on various attributes and one finds that its ultimately the people in the system that make the difference and not the process necessarily.
You may have the best systems but heartless people to run it. You may be privy to the best processes laid out in the world but when it comes to deliverance its the heart that connects and says" that's what i was looking for!!!
Bridges connect, thoughts connect, touch connects,hearts connect.Some are physical and others virtual.The meaning is given by the intent and passion behind establishing it.
ballistic
What a memorable day i had yesterday.The sheer level of activity really tested my energy levels to the limits,be it answering phones, replying to sms,emails and last but not least , thanks to facebook it sent in tons of comments on the wall that could beat the great wall of China hands down.Its good to be remembered as an individual by friends all across, irrespective of your social, professional, materialistic status.My close friends who i know since 1977 and whose kids are friends of mine called and made me feel special.A small circle, spread across the globe but still share strong bonds.
What I most liked was the presence of all my near and dear ones next to me and made this day special.The gifts that flowed were like Santa having forgotten to unload his Reindeer carriage during Christmas and therefore sent it across wholesale.My lovely wife and kids showered gifts and uncorked the champagne and added spice to the moments during the early hours of 17th.
I feel nice to have earned so much love and respect and am ever grateful to almighty for making this happen and showing me the way. Its across religions, caste ,sex and age.This is what I think one can look forward too in the times to come.I believe in giving respect and earning it, and the same applies to love and happiness.Share it as much and it comes back to you manifolds.
I would love to bask in these special moments ,especially those given by my team here who arranged for some beautiful desserts and savory along with music and dance to remind me that bones don't creak, you can still compete with a belly dancer:))
Thanks a ton to one and all for that wonderful gift.
What I most liked was the presence of all my near and dear ones next to me and made this day special.The gifts that flowed were like Santa having forgotten to unload his Reindeer carriage during Christmas and therefore sent it across wholesale.My lovely wife and kids showered gifts and uncorked the champagne and added spice to the moments during the early hours of 17th.
I feel nice to have earned so much love and respect and am ever grateful to almighty for making this happen and showing me the way. Its across religions, caste ,sex and age.This is what I think one can look forward too in the times to come.I believe in giving respect and earning it, and the same applies to love and happiness.Share it as much and it comes back to you manifolds.
I would love to bask in these special moments ,especially those given by my team here who arranged for some beautiful desserts and savory along with music and dance to remind me that bones don't creak, you can still compete with a belly dancer:))
Thanks a ton to one and all for that wonderful gift.
Tuesday, 17 January 2012
2012-Dawn of a new Era
10-9-8-7-6-5-4-3-2-1 and 00:00 hrs 17th January 2012, the day I reached my half century.Had it been cricket ,I would rejoice.I took a cue from that and said, why not?Let me too begin my new journey.Lets start counting 1-2-3 and so on that you can start living afresh and leave aside the excess baggage of memories( good and bad) and work your self through the new challenges life has to offer.God has been always kind and has given all the strength to face and tackle all situations and shown you the best what one would dream off.
Who says 2012 is Dooms day? As I go down memory lane and let go those splendid memories and experiences, let me just recall a few top of the line events that were part of this journey.
Here we go:::::Meeting the president of India and discussing business and his overseas experiences over coffee for 45 minutes in the presidential Palace and then he offered me a Birthday cake which was to take place in a few days from the day we met him.Or sitting face to face with none other than Mr.Amitabh Bachchan , the legend and the only one who I hold in high esteem,for being a splendid human being, down to earth and I had the privilege to sell him a Mercedes Benz , which he wanted to gift it to his wife Jaya.These were dream come true of sorts.Had also the chance to be a Model for a Mobile company with your face plastered across newspapers and Hoarding all around the city of Pune .It was fantastic.Flying down to the USA for a 24 hrs visit which included a business meet and a game of base ball with the red socks in action and a suite reserved to see the game.Wow!I had a chance to see exotic locales across continents, visit the Burj Al Arab the sensation of the millennium and sit in a suite having lunch that cost a bomb.Meeting many Bolly wood Icons,politicians in high places,the best of hotels,the choicest of places on the globe and sampling cuisines that were simply mind blowing. Exotic cars, chopper rides, hot air balloon and champagne breakfast at 0400 hrs over sydney, airbus 380 flights to NY,bullet train rides in Shanghai,Gondolas in Venice,life in a Tunnel ,below the English channel, visits to the Vineyards and sampling wines in Prague,kissing the Swiss Alps and exploring the depths of the ocean and experiencing the best sight ever on this planet ,the coral reefs down under .
I also experienced not so good times when people use you and let you down, when you sit at home and wonder where would my next job be?With the money in the wallet running on reserve and commitments given had to be adhered to it was a classical tightrope walk!!Some times because of my adventurous nature and willingness to explore the unknown, I made mistakes that taught me a lot.My wife and kids stood by me and gave me rock solid support at all times, without which i would never have achieved this where I am today. But going through all this we still have arrived at this milestone and am eager to forge ahead to explore the hidden mysteries of life.
I earned a lot of GENUINE friends and would like to enjoy the days ahead with them and make every day a memorable one -Frills or no frills......ready , 1-2-3........................................
Who says 2012 is Dooms day? As I go down memory lane and let go those splendid memories and experiences, let me just recall a few top of the line events that were part of this journey.
Here we go:::::Meeting the president of India and discussing business and his overseas experiences over coffee for 45 minutes in the presidential Palace and then he offered me a Birthday cake which was to take place in a few days from the day we met him.Or sitting face to face with none other than Mr.Amitabh Bachchan , the legend and the only one who I hold in high esteem,for being a splendid human being, down to earth and I had the privilege to sell him a Mercedes Benz , which he wanted to gift it to his wife Jaya.These were dream come true of sorts.Had also the chance to be a Model for a Mobile company with your face plastered across newspapers and Hoarding all around the city of Pune .It was fantastic.Flying down to the USA for a 24 hrs visit which included a business meet and a game of base ball with the red socks in action and a suite reserved to see the game.Wow!I had a chance to see exotic locales across continents, visit the Burj Al Arab the sensation of the millennium and sit in a suite having lunch that cost a bomb.Meeting many Bolly wood Icons,politicians in high places,the best of hotels,the choicest of places on the globe and sampling cuisines that were simply mind blowing. Exotic cars, chopper rides, hot air balloon and champagne breakfast at 0400 hrs over sydney, airbus 380 flights to NY,bullet train rides in Shanghai,Gondolas in Venice,life in a Tunnel ,below the English channel, visits to the Vineyards and sampling wines in Prague,kissing the Swiss Alps and exploring the depths of the ocean and experiencing the best sight ever on this planet ,the coral reefs down under .
I also experienced not so good times when people use you and let you down, when you sit at home and wonder where would my next job be?With the money in the wallet running on reserve and commitments given had to be adhered to it was a classical tightrope walk!!Some times because of my adventurous nature and willingness to explore the unknown, I made mistakes that taught me a lot.My wife and kids stood by me and gave me rock solid support at all times, without which i would never have achieved this where I am today. But going through all this we still have arrived at this milestone and am eager to forge ahead to explore the hidden mysteries of life.
I earned a lot of GENUINE friends and would like to enjoy the days ahead with them and make every day a memorable one -Frills or no frills......ready , 1-2-3........................................
Monday, 16 January 2012
strings of doom
Following the festival of kites that brings in the new year and the joy and happiness, it also carrys along with a small baggage of doom.Especially to the 2 wheelers plying on the roads on the 14th and 15th of January ,every year in Gujarat.The kites are attached to strings made in China and India .The chinese ones are very deadly and they are made of PU and are responsible for wringing birds in flight and also be the sole reason to electrocute any urchin that tries to catch a kite entangled in the overhead electrical cables.The poor birds are grounded and confused and get caught in mid air injuring their wings , sometimes beyond repair.
The Indian ones are coated with a finely ground glass powder over normal thread and can slice into a human skin and create a gash .These are all over the locality and when kites get cut in combat they fly across the roads and can be serious disaster to a fast moving 2 wheeler.People as a precaution do wear a scarf round their necks , but that is not enough.Not that families mind inspite of all the dangers , which i feel is crazy!!!
It is therefore sensible to fly kites on open grounds and less atop the roof tops to avoid falls and crazy congestion and maze of strings that may spell doom.
The Indian ones are coated with a finely ground glass powder over normal thread and can slice into a human skin and create a gash .These are all over the locality and when kites get cut in combat they fly across the roads and can be serious disaster to a fast moving 2 wheeler.People as a precaution do wear a scarf round their necks , but that is not enough.Not that families mind inspite of all the dangers , which i feel is crazy!!!
It is therefore sensible to fly kites on open grounds and less atop the roof tops to avoid falls and crazy congestion and maze of strings that may spell doom.
Friday, 13 January 2012
festival of kites
14th January every year , any year and the sky is covered with millions of kites called PATANG.The entire of Gujarat comes to a standstill and the blue skyline is dotted with colourful , fancy, designer kites that would put the likes of D&G and Armani's to shame.It becomes the kite fashion capital of the world.
The families gather on all possible open spaces, and get the food, the kite sets and the special thread that sends them soaring high above in the skies waiting for the next contestant who would match the skills.There are children running blindly across the streets , some of them street urchins who make a quick buck from the kites that get cut and float down , some getting entangled in trees and overhead wires.Oblivious of the lurking dangers across the streets and inspite of potentially dangerous encounters with vehicles or falling off the ramp, people still are willing to take risks.The entire day and the following one too being a Sunday is eat,drink, wear glares and the best clothes and fly kites to the latest numbers belted out on the MP3 systems.This is a sight to watch.
People take advance salaries, time their incentives to splurge on buying kites.40 million dollars worth of business in a matter of days.People come and throng the streets a day or two before and book kites in packs of 100 nos. in advance, which are then dispensed by appointments to avoid traffic jams and collected from the shops at all hours till the wee hours sometimes..Matchbox size kites from Khambat( gulf of Cambay) are another specialty one must watch and possibly own.
Just say this is a festival and the entire Gujarat goes in a jamboree................whew!!!!Earn in millions and spend in millions.What a way of life.This must be watched and not missed.Khushboo Gujarat ki.
The families gather on all possible open spaces, and get the food, the kite sets and the special thread that sends them soaring high above in the skies waiting for the next contestant who would match the skills.There are children running blindly across the streets , some of them street urchins who make a quick buck from the kites that get cut and float down , some getting entangled in trees and overhead wires.Oblivious of the lurking dangers across the streets and inspite of potentially dangerous encounters with vehicles or falling off the ramp, people still are willing to take risks.The entire day and the following one too being a Sunday is eat,drink, wear glares and the best clothes and fly kites to the latest numbers belted out on the MP3 systems.This is a sight to watch.
People take advance salaries, time their incentives to splurge on buying kites.40 million dollars worth of business in a matter of days.People come and throng the streets a day or two before and book kites in packs of 100 nos. in advance, which are then dispensed by appointments to avoid traffic jams and collected from the shops at all hours till the wee hours sometimes..Matchbox size kites from Khambat( gulf of Cambay) are another specialty one must watch and possibly own.
Just say this is a festival and the entire Gujarat goes in a jamboree................whew!!!!Earn in millions and spend in millions.What a way of life.This must be watched and not missed.Khushboo Gujarat ki.
Wednesday, 11 January 2012
TRAINER
The necessity for corporates to get trainers in house or outsourced is on the increase and we try to ensure that the most able person in the house must be this person.He is to be the guiding light, the coach, mentor and motivator.
However some of on them are a disaster.Body language drooping like a wax candle on its way to flame out,the energy levels gasping for TONS of red bull supplements and the word motivation - a non existent chapter in their book.
I know its a tough job but its the most challenging and full of situations that tests ones creativity and spontaneity.Given all the tools , the platform and opportunities they still cannot make the best of it.What a shame.Losers in my opinion.
They can be leaders , they are the best at resource management, good psychologist and the best shoulders to share the burdens if any of their teams.I just saw one such person missing out on a splendid opportunity provided to him.God bless .
However some of on them are a disaster.Body language drooping like a wax candle on its way to flame out,the energy levels gasping for TONS of red bull supplements and the word motivation - a non existent chapter in their book.
I know its a tough job but its the most challenging and full of situations that tests ones creativity and spontaneity.Given all the tools , the platform and opportunities they still cannot make the best of it.What a shame.Losers in my opinion.
They can be leaders , they are the best at resource management, good psychologist and the best shoulders to share the burdens if any of their teams.I just saw one such person missing out on a splendid opportunity provided to him.God bless .
Tuesday, 10 January 2012
mystery chirp
At the crack of dawn,yesterday, I woke up to the chirping of birds in the vicinity of my house.I looked out and was surprised because it wasn't the usual , where we have around 21 parrots, 15 odd squirrels and a few pigeons and robins for company.It was on a chickoo tree next door that a battalion of birds had flocked , which included 2 dark black crows as well which are hard to find in Baroda.I tried to figure out as to why this chatter and didn't notice anything unusual.The chirping grew and then there were parrots, wag tails, the pigeons,the quails, the mynah, the yellow beaked brown feathered clan of unknown category( atleast to my knowledge) all flocking in and around the tree.
This normally would happen if the cat is on the prowl to pick up its prey, or by chance if they have already succeeded to shoo it away .But , when i inspected the same at close quarters no signs of that as well.Then this may happen if a snake , is winding itself up the tree .But no, that too was not to be so.
This chatter went on for hours and only on that tree.It was a mysterious phenomena and i am seeking the explanation for the same.It died down by evening ,but never have I witnessed this before.The flock would be around 50-55 birds for sure of 5-6 different varieties.Even the canines around were stumped by this endless chatter.I would like to investigate this further for sure.
Quite uncanny, eerie if I may put it at that, may be spirits of the ethereal kind or ET on a visit to Baroda.My side of town:))
This normally would happen if the cat is on the prowl to pick up its prey, or by chance if they have already succeeded to shoo it away .But , when i inspected the same at close quarters no signs of that as well.Then this may happen if a snake , is winding itself up the tree .But no, that too was not to be so.
This chatter went on for hours and only on that tree.It was a mysterious phenomena and i am seeking the explanation for the same.It died down by evening ,but never have I witnessed this before.The flock would be around 50-55 birds for sure of 5-6 different varieties.Even the canines around were stumped by this endless chatter.I would like to investigate this further for sure.
Quite uncanny, eerie if I may put it at that, may be spirits of the ethereal kind or ET on a visit to Baroda.My side of town:))
Monday, 9 January 2012
SIMPLICITY
Keep things simple....that is the mantra of the new age and that , trust me makes life a lot better place to live in.
People have a habit of complicating things.Probably to show how smart they are or how inquisitive or of a probing nature they are.Ask a simple question , out comes a reply or a counter question.Thats how it begins.Give some one an address to explain and rather than coming to the point as Germans would do , they would give you the world map on the platter and expect you to view google earth in front of your eyes and keep driving or walking.Why?
Many a times you ask ,hey, what shall we have for lunch?These are the answers one can expect.1)Anything 2)This, but its Ok .I will go with the others 3)I am not going to eat the same stuff again so lets try something new.With all these answers where and what can the person who asked the question do?He or she keeps asking every one and that results in a laundry list of things of which he or she can possibly just look and dump it.Alternately if you were given a specific choice stating this is what we plan to do "a" or" b "and what is preferred by the majority will be done today.Finito........
Some one asking a colleague about work and he will make that look so complex that one starts feeling as if the guy is working at NASA and controlling millions of satellites in space single handedly:))
Some of us write blogs and instead of making it simple, nice to read, informative, thought provoking put so much of heavy jargon's that you are stumped.Life has to be on a cruise lane and not too fast or too slow that you keep wondering what hit you or went past you.In the cold season for instance stay near the fire short enough to feel the warmth and not to close to get burnt as well as not to far to get frozen.Simply stated.
SIMPLICITY IS THE NEW BUZZWORD.KEEP THINGS SIMPLE .IT CAN GET YOU A COUPLE OF YEARS MORE TO LIVE PROBABLY , WHO KNOWS?
People have a habit of complicating things.Probably to show how smart they are or how inquisitive or of a probing nature they are.Ask a simple question , out comes a reply or a counter question.Thats how it begins.Give some one an address to explain and rather than coming to the point as Germans would do , they would give you the world map on the platter and expect you to view google earth in front of your eyes and keep driving or walking.Why?
Many a times you ask ,hey, what shall we have for lunch?These are the answers one can expect.1)Anything 2)This, but its Ok .I will go with the others 3)I am not going to eat the same stuff again so lets try something new.With all these answers where and what can the person who asked the question do?He or she keeps asking every one and that results in a laundry list of things of which he or she can possibly just look and dump it.Alternately if you were given a specific choice stating this is what we plan to do "a" or" b "and what is preferred by the majority will be done today.Finito........
Some one asking a colleague about work and he will make that look so complex that one starts feeling as if the guy is working at NASA and controlling millions of satellites in space single handedly:))
Some of us write blogs and instead of making it simple, nice to read, informative, thought provoking put so much of heavy jargon's that you are stumped.Life has to be on a cruise lane and not too fast or too slow that you keep wondering what hit you or went past you.In the cold season for instance stay near the fire short enough to feel the warmth and not to close to get burnt as well as not to far to get frozen.Simply stated.
SIMPLICITY IS THE NEW BUZZWORD.KEEP THINGS SIMPLE .IT CAN GET YOU A COUPLE OF YEARS MORE TO LIVE PROBABLY , WHO KNOWS?
Sunday, 8 January 2012
AGEING
The only thing that we cannot reverse and the inevitable will happen.This however is something that I happen to see around and also features in many discussions when you sit with the family and friends.What i observed is that so many parents 50 plus and staying alone with the kids studying, working or settled abroad are completely lost and may or may not be willing to accept the fact that they at some point of time are going to find things difficult to cope up with alone.Health, inflation and the fast pace that is resulting in a major shift in the way life is going to take a big toll in the years to come.
Many of them try to defend and cover up the reality and the issues faced by them and others have realized what is going to hit them. Just Sending Money but not being present and being around makes a lot of difference.I see couples hobbling with knee joint operations helping each other as they complain about the travails of day to day struggles.Then come the more serious issues, of servants and travel with every thing there and yet nothing in hand.
The people settled abroad and calling themselves the Brits, American of Indian origin etc have lots on their plate to struggle.One needs people around to comfort you in these times and simply having Dollars and Euros transferred is not enough.
Pride parents take in stating my children are abroad and then facing ground realities back home is really a shocker.Lets wake up and take a note.
Many of them try to defend and cover up the reality and the issues faced by them and others have realized what is going to hit them. Just Sending Money but not being present and being around makes a lot of difference.I see couples hobbling with knee joint operations helping each other as they complain about the travails of day to day struggles.Then come the more serious issues, of servants and travel with every thing there and yet nothing in hand.
The people settled abroad and calling themselves the Brits, American of Indian origin etc have lots on their plate to struggle.One needs people around to comfort you in these times and simply having Dollars and Euros transferred is not enough.
Pride parents take in stating my children are abroad and then facing ground realities back home is really a shocker.Lets wake up and take a note.
mi marathi
I was watching the Mifta award show that was presented in London.What a giant leap for the Marathi Film industry.A whole contingent of 300 plus people carted all the way to London.I think it was much needed for this industry that is mainly dominated by other languages to make its impression on the international front.
Fantastic talent,and a theme "nostalgia" that took me back many years and all the beautiful songs and movies the excerpts of which were presented by the current generation.I sincerely wish to thank Mahesh Manjrekar and Zee TV for taking this to a global platform and creating that opportunity for Marathi films and television shows to reach global audiences at the same time.
Wishing them the best of success with one earnest request.Please improve the dress sense and get them going a bit traditional and a lot global that helps them get identified across the world and yet maintain the traditions.
Fantastic talent,and a theme "nostalgia" that took me back many years and all the beautiful songs and movies the excerpts of which were presented by the current generation.I sincerely wish to thank Mahesh Manjrekar and Zee TV for taking this to a global platform and creating that opportunity for Marathi films and television shows to reach global audiences at the same time.
Wishing them the best of success with one earnest request.Please improve the dress sense and get them going a bit traditional and a lot global that helps them get identified across the world and yet maintain the traditions.
Friday, 6 January 2012
Light house
When we work in different environments one gets to see many experienced people who are heading various verticals, institutes, organizations or sections.What we notice is that how many of them really are good coaches and guides,imparting knowledge, sharing thoughts ,ideas and experiences and more importantly willingness to learn inspite of those number of years behind them.
I find insecure people, sometimes threatened by an unknown fear or the possibility of the subordinate getting the better of him,and hence hold back key ,vital inputs that may help him and his team as well as the organization as a whole to grow.But,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Those few who do impart knowledge do it one way assuming that they are the masterminds, the know all guys and no lesser mortal can teach him.Sad again. Why are we so closeted and feel it below ones dignity to learn new things in life.
There are others who teach, coach, guide, mentor and are open to new thoughts and ideas.We need a lot of such persons for the next generations.
So where ever you are start being one now. You are the lighthouse to the gen next who will help them cruise through those choppy waters of life .
I find insecure people, sometimes threatened by an unknown fear or the possibility of the subordinate getting the better of him,and hence hold back key ,vital inputs that may help him and his team as well as the organization as a whole to grow.But,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Those few who do impart knowledge do it one way assuming that they are the masterminds, the know all guys and no lesser mortal can teach him.Sad again. Why are we so closeted and feel it below ones dignity to learn new things in life.
There are others who teach, coach, guide, mentor and are open to new thoughts and ideas.We need a lot of such persons for the next generations.
So where ever you are start being one now. You are the lighthouse to the gen next who will help them cruise through those choppy waters of life .
Thursday, 5 January 2012
365,24x7
Many of us have a habit and must have possibly noticed that we keep demanding different things that suit us , rather than check and see if it is feasible for others to deliver.Especially at Home.Many of us treat it like a 365 days ,24x7 Kitchen that churns out an assorted menu as per our whims and fancies, with least consideration for the lady of the kitchen who too works and slogs more than the male.
Those of us who have maids and servants at their beck and call are exceptions to this though they too indirectly harass the person asking,probably demanding, not requesting,for your wishlist as and when you want expecting them to be at your service all day long.
Let me give you some examples to connect well.When one gets up in the morning and one expects tea to be served as bed tea this is what happens.If it doesn't come when you decide to get up you blow your top of.If it comes in time but with not the right taste or sugar or say not hot enough you again go mad.If it comes in a cup and saucer you want it in a mug.If it comes in a mug you want that red mug only.Then the cup or the teas suddenly smells or tastes different.Some of us want tea at say 30 minutes past you waking up.Some want it after the shower.Then comes breakfast.I need oats, i need toast but lightly toasted and brown bread and only margarine and not butter with trans fat or maybe the toast that is buttered end to end with no empty spaces!!!!!!!
Some suddenly decide when the whole world wants tea , you want coffee only.That too the filter one and not the branded coffee etc etc.What rigidity with no feelings for the person in the kitchen doing this balancing act.End of the day does anyone thank that person who is a working woman and somebody's daughter, wife, mom who has many other chores to do???
How mean we are?We don't empathize nor relate or step into the shoes of this modern day working woman who undergoes much more stress than most of us.
Can we learn to adjust and help or apply a lot of commonsense and move our backside to help in there so that life becomes a lot easy.
If one has so many ifs and buts and dos and don't s they can go have breakfast in a restaurant and shell a bomb, which they will be reluctant to as it burns a hole in their wallet.Moreover that kitchen also has a break. Hope people realize and learn to accommodate than just place orders.
Those of us who have maids and servants at their beck and call are exceptions to this though they too indirectly harass the person asking,probably demanding, not requesting,for your wishlist as and when you want expecting them to be at your service all day long.
Let me give you some examples to connect well.When one gets up in the morning and one expects tea to be served as bed tea this is what happens.If it doesn't come when you decide to get up you blow your top of.If it comes in time but with not the right taste or sugar or say not hot enough you again go mad.If it comes in a cup and saucer you want it in a mug.If it comes in a mug you want that red mug only.Then the cup or the teas suddenly smells or tastes different.Some of us want tea at say 30 minutes past you waking up.Some want it after the shower.Then comes breakfast.I need oats, i need toast but lightly toasted and brown bread and only margarine and not butter with trans fat or maybe the toast that is buttered end to end with no empty spaces!!!!!!!
Some suddenly decide when the whole world wants tea , you want coffee only.That too the filter one and not the branded coffee etc etc.What rigidity with no feelings for the person in the kitchen doing this balancing act.End of the day does anyone thank that person who is a working woman and somebody's daughter, wife, mom who has many other chores to do???
How mean we are?We don't empathize nor relate or step into the shoes of this modern day working woman who undergoes much more stress than most of us.
Can we learn to adjust and help or apply a lot of commonsense and move our backside to help in there so that life becomes a lot easy.
If one has so many ifs and buts and dos and don't s they can go have breakfast in a restaurant and shell a bomb, which they will be reluctant to as it burns a hole in their wallet.Moreover that kitchen also has a break. Hope people realize and learn to accommodate than just place orders.
Wednesday, 4 January 2012
Sense of urgency
How many times we come across people who are just not concerned with prioritizing the work or attending the issue if it is not related to him.When we indicate that a certain job is needed to be done and response time is say 30 mins, we seldom find that person adhering to the timeline.
This is very much evident in Gujarat where we come across this frequently.One wonders if it just doesn't strike them, is it lack of passion, or the plain attitude to take things easy.One needs to apply penalties for say not coming in time, or getting a certain work done in the said time and only then do they scramble.When you touch their wallet they spring up.In India you fine people for many things and they get away paying bribes.In Singapore they mean what they say and adhere to that 100%.You break the law and the law breaks you.Same in most of the other parts of the world.This things works in a professional controlled environment in India but back into public arena one cares a damn.
Value each others time , honor commitments, execute work in time bound space is possible only in the professional circuit that too because it hits your wallet if you fail to deliver.Be it salary, bonus, incentive etc.If not, who cares!!
Dream of an India where people really make this happen as a habit because that is second nature.What a transformation it would be.Each of us trying that little bit, will make it happen.
This is very much evident in Gujarat where we come across this frequently.One wonders if it just doesn't strike them, is it lack of passion, or the plain attitude to take things easy.One needs to apply penalties for say not coming in time, or getting a certain work done in the said time and only then do they scramble.When you touch their wallet they spring up.In India you fine people for many things and they get away paying bribes.In Singapore they mean what they say and adhere to that 100%.You break the law and the law breaks you.Same in most of the other parts of the world.This things works in a professional controlled environment in India but back into public arena one cares a damn.
Value each others time , honor commitments, execute work in time bound space is possible only in the professional circuit that too because it hits your wallet if you fail to deliver.Be it salary, bonus, incentive etc.If not, who cares!!
Dream of an India where people really make this happen as a habit because that is second nature.What a transformation it would be.Each of us trying that little bit, will make it happen.
Tuesday, 3 January 2012
50-50
In a few days from now , I will achieve my biggest milestone in life.50 years into this life and cruising.What did one learn in these 50 years and what is it that you look forward for the balance bonus bestowed on you by almighty?
I witnessed pessimism, anger , pain, fear, happiness, lust,ambition,adventure,love, passion,hunger ,elation,delight, peace, happiness and lots more.It taught me how I could dream big and have controlled visions that give you space to work and play.It taught me that ultimately every one is in love with oneself.Be it a contest, be it real life situations.We have relations, friends, colleagues, acquaintances,guides,gurus and so on,but one thing is for sure.....be your own guru.No mortal being is superior to the other.Everyone has equal capabilities and sky is the limit.You decide what you would want and at what cost!!Then go for it.
I enjoyed my last decade the most.Life really begins after 40.One matures like wine and starts looking at things in all different perspectives.It took me places, literally.I always focused on what i wanted and believe you in me , one can get it.
I look at the next years as bonus.I wish to enjoy every moment and have no regrets at any point of time.People ask me " what is the nature of your job"? I say"enjoyment".I want to be happy at every moment, relax, talk to myself and the people I like, do what i have missed out so far and then thank god for all that he has given me and my family.
So bring it on...grand old man with salt and pepper and the intellectual bald that demonstrates that I have used that patch to my benefit in coming this far:))
I witnessed pessimism, anger , pain, fear, happiness, lust,ambition,adventure,love, passion,hunger ,elation,delight, peace, happiness and lots more.It taught me how I could dream big and have controlled visions that give you space to work and play.It taught me that ultimately every one is in love with oneself.Be it a contest, be it real life situations.We have relations, friends, colleagues, acquaintances,guides,gurus and so on,but one thing is for sure.....be your own guru.No mortal being is superior to the other.Everyone has equal capabilities and sky is the limit.You decide what you would want and at what cost!!Then go for it.
I enjoyed my last decade the most.Life really begins after 40.One matures like wine and starts looking at things in all different perspectives.It took me places, literally.I always focused on what i wanted and believe you in me , one can get it.
I look at the next years as bonus.I wish to enjoy every moment and have no regrets at any point of time.People ask me " what is the nature of your job"? I say"enjoyment".I want to be happy at every moment, relax, talk to myself and the people I like, do what i have missed out so far and then thank god for all that he has given me and my family.
So bring it on...grand old man with salt and pepper and the intellectual bald that demonstrates that I have used that patch to my benefit in coming this far:))
Monday, 2 January 2012
Transactional Analysis
We all have the P-PARENT,A-ADULT and C-CHILD in us.We use them in varying degree and all places be it work or play.This is Transactional Analysis.
My daughters however kept me on the C front more often than P and A .This had an advantage.I never forgot how to do Kangaroo hops nor replicate Tintin or Tom and Jerry while at home .This created an ambiance that was so lively that we drowned all our stress and day to day issues that got us worked up and enjoyed these moments.Irrespective of your position in the professional circuit, at home you are yourself the true individual you want or wanted to be always.
Its good to transit between A and C rather than the P, as the parent in us is very protective and we tend to keep them all in a shell.This gives us a good area and span to understand the generation gaps and flex our thoughts, be on a common platform, and give comfort to the young and old alike.Adult mode gives you the matured, decision making skills and be the support provider that makes the child feel that there is this backup which he knows back of his mind that would provide the cushion in event of a setback in anything he or she wishes to do independently.
The lively cheer, the fun and frolic, the smiles and giggles come from the Child mode and that I feel is crucial.That element in my opinion may sound absurd to many parents but it does make life so lively and joyful that you go back many years when you might have missed out on these things.Do some crazy adventure trips, night drives, breakout and dance even if you haven't danced ever.Throw your inhibitions out of the window and be your self the way you want to , when you want to.Dress to please yourself and not others, eat what you like and mingle and mix using the lingo the present generation likes.Whats wrong?
I do this many a times and it keeps me young.Do you wanna try?
My daughters however kept me on the C front more often than P and A .This had an advantage.I never forgot how to do Kangaroo hops nor replicate Tintin or Tom and Jerry while at home .This created an ambiance that was so lively that we drowned all our stress and day to day issues that got us worked up and enjoyed these moments.Irrespective of your position in the professional circuit, at home you are yourself the true individual you want or wanted to be always.
Its good to transit between A and C rather than the P, as the parent in us is very protective and we tend to keep them all in a shell.This gives us a good area and span to understand the generation gaps and flex our thoughts, be on a common platform, and give comfort to the young and old alike.Adult mode gives you the matured, decision making skills and be the support provider that makes the child feel that there is this backup which he knows back of his mind that would provide the cushion in event of a setback in anything he or she wishes to do independently.
The lively cheer, the fun and frolic, the smiles and giggles come from the Child mode and that I feel is crucial.That element in my opinion may sound absurd to many parents but it does make life so lively and joyful that you go back many years when you might have missed out on these things.Do some crazy adventure trips, night drives, breakout and dance even if you haven't danced ever.Throw your inhibitions out of the window and be your self the way you want to , when you want to.Dress to please yourself and not others, eat what you like and mingle and mix using the lingo the present generation likes.Whats wrong?
I do this many a times and it keeps me young.Do you wanna try?
joy of togetherness
We in this life are so busy and constantly tied up with our daily routines.It becomes so much a part of your daily chores that you tend to forget the most important aspect of bonding and togetherness.This factor is so prime and an essential aspect of life that if you have missed out on that you have not lived life at all. I too don't socialize much and always believed that it is better to keep a few good friends than have the dozens of guys who latch on for benefiting out of you or your position or the materialistic status you have.
But when you pause and wonder if you could give quality time maybe one or 2 times a year to meet and share joy and happiness amongst your loved ones, it is an awesome feeling.You may have missed some good and bad times of each other lives, and this helps you seal the gaps, build new bridges, iron out small differences if any and make these relations rock solid.We had one such meet recently after many years and honestly I found that I did miss out on a lot.May be i had some mindsets or just that I didn't find it important to devote enough time and energy to this.One of the members very rightly stated" ultimately its this group that will stand by you in all good and bad times ,people will perish but fond memories like these will last for ever".I agree 200%.
So if you haven't done an annual get together , then pack your bags and go do it.Its never too late.
But when you pause and wonder if you could give quality time maybe one or 2 times a year to meet and share joy and happiness amongst your loved ones, it is an awesome feeling.You may have missed some good and bad times of each other lives, and this helps you seal the gaps, build new bridges, iron out small differences if any and make these relations rock solid.We had one such meet recently after many years and honestly I found that I did miss out on a lot.May be i had some mindsets or just that I didn't find it important to devote enough time and energy to this.One of the members very rightly stated" ultimately its this group that will stand by you in all good and bad times ,people will perish but fond memories like these will last for ever".I agree 200%.
So if you haven't done an annual get together , then pack your bags and go do it.Its never too late.
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