Marriage...such a big institution.Just beautiful moments in the lives of 2 special individuals and their families.We wait for this one moment which is supposedly once in a lifetime opportunity and something one has to experience in totality with its peaks and troughs.It all starts with the 2 people falling in love or 2 strangers deciding to check their fate and see if they are made for each other.What a decision? Yet people fling them selves into the vortex and try to solve the mysteries that lie at the eye of the vortex or get sucked in a blackhole and disappear into oblivion.
The parents and elders around who have been through it and have experienced , success or failure still want to dictate the terms and set the base for the marriage for their children.Without introspecting , they decide what is good and what is bad for their children.The biggest gamble starts at the first encounters with the families and kin of the respective twosome.Then once the formalities of liking each other based on a 30 -90 mins dekko at each other, the exchange of confirmations take place and the bigger task is set for negotiations.This is the critical element and thats where the elders invariably fail to give importance to the emotional aspects.The egos clash, aspirations and reality don't see eye to eye, demands and promises go haywire and with only verbal nods lots goes for a toss.The situations become critical and may some time lead to breakups even before they start!!!!
We don't want to look within, understand, plan, prepare or take into account the feelings of our loved ones.Don't have to please the world for our pleasure.Do what we can afford and deliver delight and smiles on the faces of the young couple to be.By satisfying the egos of elders with no respect for the feelings of the young couple we are being selfish.Why don't we think about this?People who are not successful with their own marriages try and decide the fate of others?Do they have the right?Pseudo social world they live in , snobbish attitude, flimsy facade and a fragile soul is going to decide 40-50 years of a young couple all set to start life in a new way??When will all this stop!Why don't we make things simple and avoid criminal waste of money and simply get people with like minds together and help the couple enjoy those moments.The money one can simply use it for a more noble cause and avoid conflicts and ego tussles.What is laid out as a dashboard , dashes hopes of many before they start.
The parents and elders around who have been through it and have experienced , success or failure still want to dictate the terms and set the base for the marriage for their children.Without introspecting , they decide what is good and what is bad for their children.The biggest gamble starts at the first encounters with the families and kin of the respective twosome.Then once the formalities of liking each other based on a 30 -90 mins dekko at each other, the exchange of confirmations take place and the bigger task is set for negotiations.This is the critical element and thats where the elders invariably fail to give importance to the emotional aspects.The egos clash, aspirations and reality don't see eye to eye, demands and promises go haywire and with only verbal nods lots goes for a toss.The situations become critical and may some time lead to breakups even before they start!!!!
We don't want to look within, understand, plan, prepare or take into account the feelings of our loved ones.Don't have to please the world for our pleasure.Do what we can afford and deliver delight and smiles on the faces of the young couple to be.By satisfying the egos of elders with no respect for the feelings of the young couple we are being selfish.Why don't we think about this?People who are not successful with their own marriages try and decide the fate of others?Do they have the right?Pseudo social world they live in , snobbish attitude, flimsy facade and a fragile soul is going to decide 40-50 years of a young couple all set to start life in a new way??When will all this stop!Why don't we make things simple and avoid criminal waste of money and simply get people with like minds together and help the couple enjoy those moments.The money one can simply use it for a more noble cause and avoid conflicts and ego tussles.What is laid out as a dashboard , dashes hopes of many before they start.
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