Saving grace

We have a different perception when it comes to savings...recurring deposits, gold, bonds, etc etc and yes when its grace...the almighty who has given us such important organs to make use of we are responsible for saving them and taking care of them as well.

You must be wondering where am I leading to.This all came from a discussion I was having with my sister -in-law and she kept saying" oooh"" aaha", and hmmmm on the phone which made me think of this post.I asked her,if  she was conserving energy and keeping her heart from increasing palpitations, and the sudden rush of blood due to the excitement that may be caused due to the topic of discussion.?She said" in away yes.I am listening intently but then apart from expressing with this kind of a verbal response she didn't want to expand on the thoughts that she would have otherwise done, and ended up causing pain and excitement and rise in BP and eventually lead to diabetes and cardiac issues.

The rational was, if i keep adding fuel to fire or keep responding and increasing the debate even though it was intellectual, she had to conserve her energy, save her words that led to less burnout of calories, and unnecessary anxiety and excitement.By doing that and keeping cool, she saved her body from unwanted stress,that led to better health and savings on medications in the future and a stable mind that ultimately lead to think rationally and take better financial decisions that ended up getting better  savings in terms of finance.
Funny, yet food for thought.

We sometimes waste so much of energy speaking excitedly on phone, or loosing our temper on topics that are not directly related to you , or end up giving advise and do good for society and then find loosing sleep over issues that don't concern you, then whats the point.Is it worth?We text furiously, exchange quick thoughts on 'whats app" and get paranoid and addicted to such tools that spoil the bone joints of our thumbs and fingers in the long run.If we save all that energy being expelled from our body in doing such activities constantly we will have a saner world in my opinion .Think about the savings that accumulate automatically and end up being beneficial to you as an individual.This is selfish a thought but one has to take care of himself first in order to make some contribution to this world.A viral opportunity to make the world a better place.

wrap around

This is not the HOT wrap around used by ladies in Thailand and elsewhere in the world, its the situation that one ends up, especially as a male when he is wrapped around the little finger by the lady of the house and in the process looses his identity for life.Usually , all males think they are to dominate any proceeding in life after and before marriage , be it sex or work or even a simple decision.This the biggest fallacy and unless one learns to respect the partner and give equal footing and opportunity to be heard ,marriage or partnership of any kind is never successful.The wrap around also in many cases as seen is trying to satisfy your inner ego and claim to the world look who comes on TOP.When disaster strikes , be it from below or a blitzkrieg above, its the steeple that falls first.
I have seen many such lives going waste and opportunities squandered only because of unhealthy egos and the "I KNOW ALL"factor.

People , the male particularly thinks he is a lion, when he sits at home and sleeps and spends unproductive hours , advising the world of his achievements that don't exist will perish within his 4 walls .What value does he add to his own life and his family.?He infact lets their brains rust because he never allows them to use it and thinks his brains are the most sought after in this world and ends up using it to the full, with zero recharge possibility.They also have a false notion that their's is the only way the world must proceed and all the family members toe the line with no questions.

Others , like to live off their wife's money , which even their wife may not have earned but her parents who have struggled to get there.How can one live off somebody with no value addition and zero self esteem?Shameless.Then they bleet and follow  little Bo-peep every where she goes.Nods like Noddy to everything she says and does all odd jobs that is ordered to be done.

In both situations why do we allow this to happen.?God has given each one of us brains to be used, 2 eyes to see the world, 2 ears to hear and understand the happenings, and 1 mouth to use wise words selectively and ensure a peaceful happy world for self and others.I can't imagine how people love to live of others or be victims in life and allow every one to trample upon them.Never , ever be a VICTIM in life.Its better to hold the stick at the right end rather than be at the receiving end always.

Instead, wear wrap arounds and frolick on the beach with your loved ones, enjoying the bliss and absorbing the very essence of life , moment by moment and respect each other for being there at all times.

Dashboard

Marriage...such a big institution.Just beautiful moments in the lives of 2 special individuals and their families.We wait for this one moment which is supposedly once in a lifetime opportunity and something one has to experience in totality with its peaks and troughs.It all starts with the 2 people falling in love or 2 strangers deciding to check their fate and see if they are made for each other.What a decision? Yet people fling them selves into the vortex and try to solve the mysteries that lie at the eye of the vortex or get sucked in a blackhole and disappear into oblivion.

The parents and elders around who have been through it and have experienced , success or failure still want to dictate the terms and set the base for the marriage for their children.Without introspecting , they decide what is good and what is bad for their children.The biggest gamble starts at the first encounters with the families and kin of the respective twosome.Then once the formalities of liking each other based on a 30 -90 mins dekko at each other, the exchange of confirmations take place and the bigger task is set for negotiations.This is the critical element and thats where the elders invariably fail to give importance to the emotional aspects.The egos clash, aspirations and reality don't see eye to eye, demands and promises go haywire and with only verbal nods lots goes for a toss.The situations become critical and may some time lead to breakups even before they start!!!!

We don't want to look within, understand, plan, prepare or take into account the feelings of our loved ones.Don't have to please the world for our pleasure.Do what we can afford and deliver delight and smiles on the faces of the young couple to be.By satisfying the egos of elders with no respect for the feelings of the young couple we are being selfish.Why don't we think about this?People who are not successful with their own marriages try and decide the fate of others?Do they have the right?Pseudo social world they live in , snobbish attitude, flimsy facade and a fragile soul is going to decide 40-50 years of a young couple all set to start life in a new way??When will all this stop!Why don't we make things simple and avoid criminal waste of money and simply get people with like minds together and help the couple enjoy those moments.The money one can simply use it for a more noble cause and avoid conflicts and ego tussles.What is laid out as a dashboard , dashes hopes of many before they start.

excess baggage

Life...one wonderful opportunity given by almighty and its up to each one of us to make the utmost of the precious time given to us.If we sit , procrastinate,ruminate, idle and sleep it out we are nothing but wasting those moments that will never come back.Be it in professional life or in your daily personal life.

I come across many people, some in a tearing hurry to reach somewhere but not knowing where.Some steady, taking time to ruminate, think , then act with caution, taking every sip of this elixir called life after blowing it cold and then moving forward.More so , like a snail,And, yet others who just can be termed as "EXCESS BAGGAGE".

These are the people of a community which just decide to stick to the definition of Inertia and wait for some one to kick butt or push or shove to gather that so called momentum that will take them to the next milestone , which may be a few millimeters per year.Happy or unhappy , i wonder? When asked "what is their purpose in life?", they draw a blank and look back as if I spoke to them in Greek or Latin, or that they were struck by a thunderbolt from the sky.Should I feel sad for them and sympathize , try to understand them, give them 1 million chances and see if they improve or just leave them at the platform for them to convert that potential energy called Inertia to kinetic energy at their own sweet pace.In my professional career I had done a lot of hand holding trying to get people activated and generate that flicker when you strike 2 flintstones.Some spark, others remain stagnant.I have no option but to offload that baggage at the first available station , rather than carry that excess baggage all round and slow down your progress too.Is that bad?I don't think so .You have a task cut out for your self and each individual has to live up to that.If I don't , I have then not lived up to my potential.

I therefore would request all my friends and well wishers, to create enough energy from within that helps you generate the maximum momentum and contribute the best to this life.Never be a laggard.Have a purpose and a goal in life.However small it may be.It at least helps you drive towards it.It should create a pull or help give a push towards that goal.The delight is immense.But rudderless lives , burden on society and family is a big NO-NO.

juice up

I keep watching a guy who sits outside the joggers park and does booming business on all kinds of juices.What i realised was that people who came in various shapes and sizes, trying to shed off their signs of prosperity ,were queuing up for that elixir that they believe is going to make them fit as a fiddle.

The guy outside sells all kinds of colored juices, namely wheat grass, neem and amla and the icing on the cake the orange juice-all time favourite.What amuses me is that he will become a millonaire no doubt and people blindly ask him for a glass of mixed juice(???) and drink to their hearts content yapping away to glory all the rumors and global news on health and economy as well as their neighbourhood.

I can see for sure that the lawns in the joggers park are fast depleting and sometimes wonder what really goes in that wheat grass juice??The way people queue up is like waiting outside a restaurant till they get a seat and they even will block the entrance , oblivious of the fact that it is meant as an entry and exit point for other serious joggers.God save these people.As far as business mind goes, hats off to the juice guy.2 hours every morning with 5-10 bucks a glass and monthly accounts of 90 plus guys only cash is great business indeed.Income tax????what's that???Who cares???No proof and may be he qualifies for the BPL guys as per the government norms and gets all perks meant for them.Double whammy.

Tweaks

God has created beautiful people all of them with no exceptions.Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder as we say.Then there are black beauties, young beauties, white skinned, blondes,old and others not so fortunate but beautiful within.

I still keep wondering what makes celebrities spend millions of pounds/euros/rupees with cosmetologists and plastic surgeons who create fancy titles and claim to create beauty by external treatments such as botox, nose jobs,lipo suctions and jaw and lip tuck ins etc etc.

What happened to Michael Jackson who made innumerable nose repairs till such time that the nose bridge started to dissolve.He had to hide his face and move around.Others who tend to boost up their busts to prove themselves as Femme Fatal and defy all laws of gravity as well as road safety.
Why are people out to prove what god has given them is not enough?The craving to have more is so much a mania!!Priyanka and the likes,spending money  working on their lips to create a pout that reminds you of a gold fish that in found is a fish pond at home.

The beauty should reflect from within.The external facade is all fake.Its something that doesn't last long and the more you tweak it the worse it becomes.In my opinion the original is always better than any refurbished version however good it may appear externally , has its flaws that give way .Our body is equipped with so many natural options that if we follow a routine in which we don't abuse it, trust me it will only glow.The soul is cleaner, and one shines from within and you need not be a looker to be successful and happy in life.Tiger woods, Naomi Campbell,Om puri, Amrish Puri and many other film stars including the one and only superstar Amitabh Bachchan, was rejected  for looks and then went on to become a legend.Appreciate what god has given you and stay with it.

F.R.I.E.N.D.S-2

The next in my kitty of friends is Shounak.The guy with whom we must have shared and split numerous tea cups and restaurant bills of such small denominations, as none of us really had that kind of money to splurge.We spent time together from Fergusson college to COEP and then he took of to the USA.He got himself a reputation of being one of the most mischievous guys on the campus and had many a situations that put us in splits.He went on to become a national rowing coach and that to for the ladies team with whom he spent time officially on the river in the midst of nowhere for hours and we were trying to get 5 minutes to even just say hello:).

He now has a Doctorate and delivered papers in Various countries and is settled with his family in Detroit.We were his guests on a couple of occasions and boy what a whale of a time we had.From driving down to Toronto and seeing the Niagara to musical shows and shopping.He took care of is ailing mother and his younger siblings inspite of all the workload and family responsibilities.We had a great get together with all families in Pune recently and what a memorable occasion it turned out to be.He still has the Indian roots, follows the culture and traditions very religiously and hats of to that.People pick up an accent in a year of reaching USA and keep rubbing it in every place even when they come back home to India.

His wife , works and travels and manages to take care of both ends.Shounak is one person , very down to earth, hassle free , fun loving , yet responsible guy who makes you feel at home anytime.

A big thanks there for being a  part of this lovely group.

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

A term that is easily said but really hard to find .True friends, who  stay with you through thick and thin share your moments are the real friends .God has been kind to give me these and i am eternally grateful to him for these genuine gems.Shounak, Sanat, kishore, Kunj and Nitin -5 of them , now with their families and kids have been together for over 35 years.We are located at different places spanning the globe, each one of us successful in their own sphere and still connected through the fabric of mutual respect, love, and family bonds.The current generations are also fairly well connected and we can set an example of true friendship to them and pray to god that this continues for the times to come.

I would like to mention one of them this time .Kishore, a B-Tech in chemical Engineering and the most modest and tallest in the group.Married and father of 2 children stays in Pune and running his own business as a chartered Engineer today and his wife a home grown entrepreneur ,successfully running her boutique.He has been one person who never to date has lost his cool, always smiling and happy with his life inspite of the odds he has had to face.Supporting his parents and his family and overcoming such ordeals that are even difficult to imagine, never ever have i seen him complain.He has set an example for us and many others that with as strong will and determination one can cross any hurdle with a smile.His innocence, simplicity,and straightforwardness is something one can envy.The connect he manages to establish with all of us , irrespective of his domestic issues is creditable.The others in the group each have their own strengths and areas of improvements but inspite of being 5 different fingers we belong to the same palm and when closed can be a powerful force to reckon with.

Just keep wondering , how grateful i am to almighty for giving genuine friends who are willing to stand by your side and be with you without expectations, inspite of being miles apart.Will cover my other gems in the next posts.