Wo(W)man

The word captioned above is synonymous with strength, resilience, persistence,flexibility, agility, love,emotions and much more.With such an enormous amount of potential this person, be it the lady of the house who many assume does no work, or the lady at work, demonstrates such an ability that can leave the men from Mars way behind.

The girl child ,when she blossoms into a mother to be,the way she adapts to the changing world around and in her is simply unbelievable.God has made provisions for every small change that takes in your life ,especially when you are about to bring in one more life into this world.The diets and health restrictions, the routine checkups, the anxiety and curiosity about what next, the quarterly reviews and shifting gears to welcome the new entrant is a treat to watch.To assimilate the enormous amount of information available on the Internet and clubbing that up with the doctors advise and million others who have been mom's is a task at hand.Then comes the actual day when the child steps into this world, the ability of the girl child, changing over to a mother, ready to nurse, and bring up the kid, is a phenomenal leap.Balancing on all fronts, the husband and new dad, the baby and the mother attachments, the traditions and checks and balances, the do's and don't s etc is a humongous task.The feeds, the sleepless nights, the wailing kid, building up patience and tolerating the confinement one is subjected to due to hygienic reasons is also a big lesson in itself.

The mental and physical exertion , and stress that it brings about is not for everyone.The food and timings, the doctor's visits and checkups, the vaccine schedules, the massages and the mandatory rest in periods all this and more, just don't seem to end.The lady in question ,however is so cheerful and manages to go through the daily chores as if its routine.Then apart from that she manages home in a nuclear family, the food to be cooked, the clothes, her health and the people and their whims and fancies if any in the house.If she gets help at home from all hands then lucky,if not then god save this poor child.

With all this and more, we still doubt what a woman can deliver and underestimate her prowess.She can fly space missions, jet fighters, commercial flights,be executive chefs in major Hotel chains,teach, coach and be excellent in business analytics or for that matter running a financial institution.We as men , are lazy and comparing to the physical work or mental capabilities demonstrated by women , they indeed are WOW than MEN.Lets admit and accept .You need tea and food at your doorstep, your newspaper handy at all times, your relaxation times as you are the only one who apparently works and all this that gives you time to watch the news, and snore at 10 pm.On the other hand the lady is up early, kids to school, food to be prepared , work at office and home,kids homework,evening dinner and catering to the invites you may have made to impress your office folks, and end of the day after managing the maids and utilities etc she wishes to crash and catch up with some sleep when you want her company!!!!

Who is the super power then?Why are we against a girl child?Why do we underestimate them?Give them the respect and the helping hand and I am sure they deliver better.Be it in a boxing ring or in the hospital.Without them we are nothing.Hats of to them.Wish people keep aside their bloated egos and accept the truth.

Dark K(night )s

The late night party circuits, the typical snobbish crowds, the music, the dance, the muwah muwahs and glitzy dresses with booze and money spilling out of every pocket,the Louis Vuitton and the coaches meet and the show begins. Come Friday evening or better said weekend dusk's , and lo the party animals start getting into their gears. The ladies in their branded original or imitations but a must have dress for being recognised, the perfumes must attract or woo the person you meet, the stilettos , the lipsticks the jewellery, the makeup and clutches must have a distinct presence all in a bid to outshine the others.Then wait for the next big sacrificial goat who will pick you up in his swanky car ( owned, rented, or borrowed to impress the lady and the parking lot).as soon as that drives up ,the big Hi and muwahs start. The goat, I mean the male, struts around in an Armani or a diesel or Marks and Spencer black outfit as any other colour is a strict no. He reeks of Davidoff,CK,or a woody perfume with a Mont Blanc pen clipped to his jacket and dancing Jimmy Choos with a Lacoste belt tied up around his waist.There may be less cash in his fancy wallet but credit cards galore with a huge pending bills lined up for next month.Then out comes the exquistie Scotch in a crystal glass on the rocks in the car, and with the arm candy and the first swig the engines fire on all cylinders to start the party . Mind you ,you have to have 2-3 invites from prominent people so that you are held in high esteem on this pseudo circuit which otherwise considers you an out caste.

At the first venue, throw the keys to the valet in style and disrespect and walk past the doorman shoving a 500 ₹ note to keep his car parked right in front of the porch . He gets a grand salute and the arm candy is impressed.Then one enters the smog, sorry the fog created by smoke canisters and cigarettes , the loud music and the sea of elite( so called)party animals, make you feel as if you are entering the Jurassic park. And literally the swords are drawn , covered with a veil of course and facades start being seen."Hello darling"!!! , How have you been? We just met at xyz party yesterday and it was such a sham . Are you going to abc party tonite? If yes then you are equitable socially speaking, if not you are not important .the crowds brush  each other and the skirts slits start displaying those fascinating and not so fascinating legs. Roving eyeballs start reaching all corners and literally some of them give you the creeps as if they slide down every inch of your personal space.The cleavages displayed are a competition within and lead to security threats if found alone and turn out to be a challenge for the cops on duty.The drinks and cocktails mock the health charts and flow fast enough to challenge the Niagara Falls .No one cares a damn for food and when one realises that the who's who is there and you are spotted and noticed you move on to the next venue again to start the same Hippocratic process. One may come with a pink arm candy and go with a black one . The nights don't end, the  smoke in the lungs active or passively acquired is what one carries home with alcohol in the belly that inspire movies like Delhi belly.

What a life ? Then there are soft drugs, partner swaps, bitching of the highest caliber, deals and money changing hands and depressions and cravings for more to follow.Is this how we enjoy life?Get up next morning to start another Rendevouz and a new story unfolds.The we have page 3 scandals splashed all over the media and the fallouts are chewed and debated in the same circles.Who you come with the night before and who you get up next to the next morning is what pushes up the adrenaline in these party animals, which they call culture and teach the gen next how to blow up the money earned by your own folks .

AAP...

The new kid on the block on the Indian political scenario.A blessing or a disaster.?Boon or Bane? Thank the previous governments who ruled our country for Donkey years and messed up the canvas.They created scams, gates, controversies,and shamed us across borders.They had the good the bad and the ugly all kinds of personalities who seem to be embroiled in all such controversies time and again and yet coming out in the open defending their statements and stating that they have been misquoted.What a joke!Atleast the people of Delhi made one change and that was AAP.Jai Ho!! Kejriwal.

The Kejriwal phenomenon which has taken the country by storm, is also sailing in a boat that has to weather many storms inside and outside .I remember this quote"Be simple and smart , but not stupid".In real life we can make hundreds of statements and commitments, which may be doable or would appear plain unrealistic.Then he goes and grabs every opportunity to prove what he said and try to deliver on ground.This is very much scary.If we don't assess the depth and the priorities in which we need to address so many issues , it will be a big muddle.The intent may be good but by rushing into all these at once and trying to not only micro manage things but also assessing and validating candidates etc  would lead to utter chaos.People will demand tons of explanations even if you BURP.Then come the populist measures called Janata Durbar( People gatherings) to hear their grievances .The turnout and the wish list is so long that it becomes an Anaconda of alarming proportions and twines around your own neck.The very first day turns out to be a disaster where the cops had to bail out the CM.If you don't want the security etc under the guise of austerity measures its ok, but the risk in a place like India and its repercussions are huge.The poor beat cop gets thrashed and even more stressed realizing that he can see the risks and yet cannot act.

Wearing a cap and walking around as a candidate doesn't make everyone a Kejriwal.What's under the cap is what matters.The rush to spread the tentacles of AAP political ambitions is further going to make life miserable.We have inexperienced people who have never governed or addressed real complicated issues on ground.How does one expect them to deliver on all fronts , across India and on the Global fabric??Why the rush??Why not prove what one can deliver as a party in a smaller area and then get to grips with the larger issues.This is where inspite of being an IITian, and an IRS person, one may fail as  the technicalities and politics don't tread on the same space necessarily.I am also an optimist and wanting to change India but all this chaos and number crunching seems to make me pretty apprehensive and seeing the other party members shooting their mouths off at the drop of a hat literally is serious indeed.Hope , the people of India realize the same and drive sense and patience in this runaway train called AAP.

Jailbreak

Habits...Die hard.Man is so accustomed to being caged in his habits that they become virtual prisoners and that too for years.This leads to so much of inconvenience to people around that they make simple things into complicated tangles.I have come across people who state that they attribute their health to the strict regime and time table they follow , come what may.For example, get up at 4 in the morning and may be start their morning rituals with prayers, yoga, and probably a walk for an hour or so.Now here they put the lights on and or some music( devotional mostly) but the people around who are sleeping at that hour,especially after a hard days work, start stirring in their beds.The morning rituals end up being a sore point when you are all set to rush to office and  they want to have their bath even when they don't have to go anywhere at the same time.In event of you having a single bathroom, the time conflicts begin.Then they want a specific kind of tea with or without sugar and at a certain temperature etc which at times may have to be prepared separately .This causes a lot of disruptions especially when you are unwilling to budge from your time schedules and become stubborn.Even tastes, and smells, the quality of ingredients and the way things are presented start becoming hurdles for a peaceful day to day life of a common man.Some people are so finicky that they get on your nerves at times and create unpleasant situations that spoil a nice harmonious environment.

The food habits , low oil, low fat , low carb,  etc makes you so low that one might get into depression .One must strike a good balance in life and that applies to this as well in my opinion.Extremists are not welcome in this world anyway.Sleeping habits and afternoon siestas also are the silent zones at home.Medications have to be followed as a time table which I understand.The entertainment zone also becomes a habit and we get accustomed to watching a certain TV channel,certain time only inspite of the same programs being telecast 3 times in 24 hours .Even if one misses it, they can follow the same next day at noon maybe.But, the schedule has to be maintained even if it clashes with other people who want to see some other programs .

If we break these shackles and get out of the mind games and the prison that ties us down and gets us into habits that can easily be broken it would be peaceful.That helps all of us to make best use of the time you have and how that gels with others schedules without depriving them of good times.Moreover these habits sometimes put us under pressure and add tensions to life.If we inculcate the habits of flexibility at a young age then we can contribute to making the world a better place as we grow up.Respect your own as well as others time.

Big Bubble

The EGO and the rate at which it gets inflated and starts rising above sea level defying all laws of gravity and commonsense and understanding is very rampant now a days.You come across so many of these daily and to stay clear from that is a huge task for any individual.The resultant in most cases ends up in arguments, fights, emotional stress that kills you from within,depressions,and many more lethal outcomes depending on the capacity of the individuals concerned to sustain the same.

Its starts at a young age and if properly trained in the upbringing process can definitely make a good impression in the later years.I have come across extremely polite, gentle people who never lose their cool, appear good but foolish to the snobbish outside world but who actually  is a gem of an individual.By various psychological analysis one may interpret that as weak, docile, spineless etc but its not true.These are the people who know that getting into conflicts saps you out and leads to endless discussions and arguments that may some times become physically challenging as well.These are  the true, strong balanced individuals one must  try and become in life.But the Let GO portion is seldom taken up by people even if they preach the same to many others around.Actually it is simply....difficult.The situations that arise keep activating triggers at various times and points and depending on your state of mind, age, culture,upbringing etc you respond to stimuli.The big and the tall structured mostly feel that they can prevail over any situation physically as well as mentally .Perceptions ofcourse!!.Some just think they are the smart asses of this universe and that they can outdo any creature on this planet.A few are plain dumb stupid as they add no value to themselves as well as the society at large but still feel that they deserve respect and priority et- al.They live on a different planet and can be dispensed with actually.They not only make their own life complicated but the life of others depending on them or associated with them as well , be it in business or personal relations.

Trying to counsel, educate, talk it out or debate falls on deaf ears and the amount of exercise your tongue gets may make you loose weight and on the other hand add so much gas(helium) in the egoist ,that he/she just lifts of the planet.A pin is what that is required to prick these egos , but its easier said than done.Where and how conversations may lead to if this 3 letter word comes in between is anybodies guess.The strut of a rooster and the morning wake up alarm sets the tone for the day for any individual who loves to be in this hypo-critic, pseudo world of egoistic people.God has made them for all of us to accept the fact that be humble, down to earth ,simpleton and remember that if you cannot add any value don't erode it.

idiot box

Who ever penned this name, hats off!!When we go  across a wide cross section of people and find them relentlessly pursuing a certain serial(s) on one or more than those 200 plus channels is mind boggling.Various characters all painted , decked up and pitched against bright coloured sets that make the picture gaudy anyway for the tired eyes that would like to watch some sensible programme end of a long day.But , see the Indian sentiments.Emotions overflowing, anxiety creeping in every nook and corner,crime, pre- marital sex, children out of wedlock, affairs and deceit,suspense and drama,3 or sometimes 4 generations who sleep fully decked up in 1 ton jewellery , as if to say i am a mobile jewellery store.The actors, most of them novices and who spend 70% of their time with glycerine's in their eyes and adding to the woes of the common man ( in my opinion) by rubbing it in.The similar situation that many may face in real life and is looking for a crazy , fun loving, easy to absorb entertainment episode, ends up going to sleep with all the crap thrown at them ( 20 minutes of the serial, with stretched music sequences and close shots of the painted faces followed by advertisers in queue waiting to take their slice of emotional harassment.

To add to all this most members in the family prefer different serials or programs and the times clash.The well to do have their families split in 3 rooms with 3 TV's blaring 3 different programs till the people are yanked out to have dinner or lunch.The actors who succeed in drawing attention of the gullible audience manage to get a better draw and time on prime time shows at the cost of making thousands of spectators insane.See them talking to the press and they state" the love of the people is what matters" and as long as that survives, they survive.Then come the stupid award ceremonies with atrocious art sets and some times cheap comedy and aerobics that seem to have many jaw dropping scenes.I wonder what " MASK" would say if he were a real character seeing this .

The worst part being the episodes being re telecast and repeatedly aired at different times and people especially those who have retired or who have very less to do in life keeping watching the same **** over and again.God save this mad house.Don't we have anything creative that would engage us in a better way.We have some really interesting , factual, scientific, clean and nice comedy that is so watchable and informative.The mind refreshes end of the day with the clean comedy acts that makes you laugh away your worries rather than corrupt and clog your brains.Then come the scandals and reality shows, who kissed whom and who is dating whom and who broke up and who had a brawl in BIG **** etc !!!!!Some regional shows try to imitate the bigger content and end up being a hash or a poor production copy of the original.The actors are so loud, crude and outright ridiculous leaving aside a few seasoned players who live through their characters.

The coffee shows and interview of the rich and the famous with all scoops and attitude tossed around trying to show how cool the individuals are and on the side bitch around and create controversies , just to later state that they were misquoted.People love to enter somebody Else's life and walk around in their space where they have enough on their own end.If they don't have enough they get carried way and try to imitate and live a hollow, artificial life , convincing themselves  that they are the living gods.

Where will all this IDIOT box take us to as we do along?New channels repeating the same news 100 times, breaking it a million times claiming they stand up for the truth and facts only.Entertainment under the name of unrealistic shoddy shows and glycerin pools is going to make the world a complex , psychotic place leading to more crimes, rapes, abortions, murder and divorces.Hope channels like national geographic,TLC etc who try to bring the reality and nature into the households adding value to every individual flourish.

God bless all those who plan to retire and request them to take quick measures to ensure their quality of life is better and not worse in the final hours.