For" GOD" sake

Happen to skim through some trailers of the serials that run on our Indian TV,which I seldom do, and I was Shell Shocked!!!Almost every episode, in different serials, on various channels seem to be having the following content.50% tears and emotions, 25% deceit, 10% extra marital affairs and balance a mixture of exaggerated anger, jealousy,envy and suspense!!!!!The face of each lady acting on the screen had a layer of 1.235 mm of makeup,bright colours and shades of clothes irrespective of day or night,tonnes of jewellery that added approximately 1.63 kgs extra!!!!The way episodes are stretched and some actors who are simply pathetic, when it comes to acting are watched with so much of concentration ,that if they were to use this in schools and colleges, India would have the largest population of intellectuals in the world, that too, majority from  the fairer sex.

But the ultimate shock was this .Every actress, be it from the majority or minority community or from the reserved category, keeps asking God for help at the drop of a hat ,and when it doesn't work in their favour they hold him to ransom.Ask him silly questions, blame him for all the things that have happened to her,because of her mistakes.So conveniently do all the illegitimate things, get into controversial relations, and then ask for forgiveness .God must be wondering, with just 1.3 billion strong Indian population alone imagine the stress he must be having with people giving him a tough time every second, across the globe,365x24x7.Imagine a situation if he were to give up on us?

Why do we create such a hoopla and spoil the sensibilities of the audience at large?Light comedy, fun filled episodes should be relayed more to keep every TV couch potato smiling and relaxed, rather than add to the burden, he or she is carrying with them ,every day.The( atrocious)scenes shown ,muddle up the sane mind of the youth, and they start being a hazard to society,trying to emulate it in real life.When will people realise this and really stay away from this Idiot box which doesn't spare almighty? God, please accept my apologies, and forgive me for bringing this to the fore, as I would have created hatred amongst millions virtually over the Internet ,by stating the truth.

Touch Encounters.

What a whale of  a time I had in the last 48 hours.A group of 13 people, staying in the same complex, a few  known to each other and the rest absolutely unknown, went on a short vacation to the near by Hill station of Panchgani.The age group spanned across  a band ,starting from 7 years to 72 years, and had an equal mix of both genders.Talk about religions,there were Gujarati's, Marwari's, Maharashtrians from all walks of life.They have a background that ranged from free lance consultants , to Directors of a Global Robotic firm, to a Kids School Owner, to a banker and a businessman.

Packing of in 3 cars, with different premium brands ranging from an SUV , to the rock solid Octavia and the sleek Honda City, we took off at different times due to various commitments we needed to close before we land up for a real well deserved break.I was pretty curious, as we had literally packed our stroller just a few minutes before departure, had no idea where were to stay and what arrangements had been done, and only knew that we were to be carted along with one family who had ample space in their SUV ,inspite of it being packed with luggage and snacks.It was fun to rush into a blind alley and yet not being apprehensive just by the fact that we had company along and we would  manage any situation that we confront.So ,we started our journey @1400 hrs,and saw our friend ,who is a super enthusiastic driver , who would drive any place anytime, when its his time.Distance etc doesn't matter one bit.He inspite of being under the weather, got himself and the family all set for this awesome vacation.The others were somewhere on the Google map, planning to reach the set destination,just a few hours apart.

The driving experience, or rather being driven in that SUV, sure got me the jitters, as seated behind, I was taken across at breakneck speed,cutting corners ,wedging so precisely in between 2 vehicles that made my heart jump out 102 times in the 90 minute journey.I had to cling to my seat and the seat belt ,asking both, to remain with me through the journey.My wife,probably must have created enough holes in my skin to start a fountain of sorts till we reached our destination. Whoa!!!What a roller coaster indeed.Fortunately we all got into the bungalow which was to be our abode for the next 48 hours , in one piece and in good time.It was beautifully nestled in the midst of thick green bamboo surroundings and a foliage that had practically all shades of green and enough space for us to have any tournament we wished.Then started the interactive sessions that spilt out the eternal truth about each individual and their families.Their values, their talents, their unrealized potential, their dreams,their differences, their opinions, their thoughts and ideologies, the child in each and every person irrespective of age, the likes and dislikes for food and the thrills and adventure they all faced in life.That set me thinking.Each episode that unfolded, from 0600 in the morning, till 0100 hrs next morning,was so intense, so rich, so informative that I wish to thank god for giving me the chance and opportunity to meet these wonderful friends, not on a social network, but in real life .The multi-talented, the deprived, the orthodox, the easy going, the silent brooders, the chirpy enthusiastic partners,the matured elderly fatherly figure,the kids and their smart moves, was an eye opener.One common thing I learnt was each one was fighting to secure himself & his family,oblivious of the fact that he is loosing quality time which he is not utilizing, running after those $$$$.Mostly all of them were concerned with their state of health,some over anxious and stepping up the fitness regime, and others just letting things float.Some of them, getting hyper active and going on overdrive worrying about whats gonna happen next in the coming 2-3 days, and loosing sleep over it.A few of them uncorked their hidden talents of opening up their vocal chords, and lighting up the skies with sweet melodies, never heard before.Some blazed the floor with such moves that would put the most seasoned dancers to shame.They flitted in all combinations and revealed their exciting sides to the crowds.These were some without the golden fuel effect and some with the effect.Either ways the results were mind blowing.

The struggle, the pangs of separation due to heavy travel and business schedules, the late night and long hours, the dreams and desires, the long wait is so common across families.The children had so much talent that simply rubbed of each other and set the stage on fire.Be it music, games, songs, dance and boredom.The innocence, the mischief, the bored look at times, the happiness and ecstasy when they went on the bumping cars or played the noisy electronic games in the parlor.Eating strawberries, horse riding, painting the town red, going bonkers on shopping,and creating a havoc in this audience ,living life at their own terms was a lesson for the seniors.Then came the evenings that went on till early mornings, with discussions on spirituality to watching the IPL cricket matches, reading palms and giving every one around a chance to pin someone around so that the real persona emerges.That bought out so much out of each individual that unmasked the personalities , created new friends,and established new equations which drew out the truth.
But the sheer engagement and delight it bought on the faces of each of us till we popped of completely zapped.The return journey ,was inevitable, and  that woke us all up to the Monday morning blues that were to take place.Fagged out by the sheer activity and yet excited about all that took place and will take place,certainly made me richer in terms of experience and knowledge that has taught me a few things in life -What to and what not to follow in life, who ,and how to connect with the people ,who you know are genuine and not wanting  to be with you ,for what you have, or what you would do for them.Looking forward to more such exciting encounters.

Black dot

The entire country is in a frenzy,the polling is in full flow. The people of India are excited and need the change.Speculations are rife, bets, debates, accusations and counter accusations are flying faster than superman and his cape.People get a paid leave so that they can cast that valuable vote in the ballot box.However ,many still don't vote and go on a holiday , or don't get themselves registered and take the whole exercise, as a joke.

Little do they realise that thousands of man hours are spent by the election commission , their teams of teachers, govt. servants, police officials, reserve protection force,who work day and night to ensure peaceful polling. To top it all, the media hounding them, the arrogant egoistic politicians and their cronies throwing their weight around they need to carry out their orders strictly and comply with the rules set for themselves.Inspite of all this , they put up a brave face, work those long hours , face the wrath and do a thankless job for the nation.After the long stretch of work, they are carted like cattle ,in the back of a dump truck or any available rickety transport .They presumably get food  and water to drink .They face the  sweltering heat and in some places even Naxalite threats .

Once the results are announced ,some are  merry making and others have their heads tucked in sand , but no one remembers these officials. The families of these people also deserve a respectful life. They too need motivation , acknowledgement ..... But who cares. 1.2 billion strong nation wants a change at the centre but don't work to change these simple basic needs of the deserving few.Hats of to the CEC for a splendid job,and making a huge effort to conduct the elections of the largest democracy on earth successfully.

Eternal Truth

It was such a pleasure to see that humanity still exists.The bonding, the emotions are still so real and that ultimately, is what counts.We, in the fast paced world, are running mad  in a virtual world, networking socially ,millions of miles across, with selfies, and mms,emails and sms, and send the flying muwaaah's free all over the developing the so called Love bonds, without a chance to meet a person in real life at times.

Just a few kms from where we stay, 30 kms to be precise, we had a chance to meet and mix with simple , straightforward people, who were not pseudo's, they extended so much of warmth and genuine affection in what ever they did, and were willing to adapt and accommodate us to ensure they give us the best hospitality.Mind you , they met us for the first time as a family, and are of minimum acquaintance as such.
They were all present to greet us at their simple home,prepared simple homemade curry and Bhakri( Indian Roti) and we all sat on the floor to taste that meal that touched our hearts.All members of the family were excited as if they were on a special mission and freely demonstrated their love and affection in making our experience at their place a memorable one.The neighbors also stepped in to say hello, and were more that enthused to extend help in anyway they felt , that would make the hosts impressions one of a kind.

On exploring that canvas, we found that they live as one big community and share their good and bad times together, have great trust, love and affection amongst all of them, share food and sweets , help each other in times of need, be it materialistic or emotional and moral support.They hop on to their vehicles, be it any kind of transport and chat and discuss many issues that ultimately build up an opinion.They sit out under the stars and enjoy nature, toil hard on their farms, drop family members and neighbours together and run errands without making a fuss.

We on the other hand have a facade,ulterior motives, and live in a virtual world gradually moving away from real happiness.If this continues , we will never be able to enjoy God's gift to us.

network marketing

I happen to attend one of the network marketing seminars, of a reputed company that has now even started advertising on TV, which it never use to do for years.The push sales starts from ,convincing you to be a part of a group,without highlighting the brand, sadly,probably fearing that people may opt out by just hearing the name.The star presenter then presents the slides with such ease,as he or she must be doing it day in day out ,where the audience around you seems planted and plonked in strategic seats around new comers to give them a feeling of how successful each of them is.They term themselves with names and titles that remind you of the great kings and queens who wore those precious jewels as if they were available for free at road side vendors.They give great examples of Robert Kiyosaki , who indeed writes beautifully and opens the eyes of millions to the reality of assets and liabilities in day to day life.

Now ,the presentation ends and suddenly a list of the successful performers is announced and they are called on stage one by one to rattle down their story ,which is done as crisply as if they were wafers for tea.They go through that ritual , unnerving a few, confusing a few and making others think, wow, that's me in a few years from now.Most of these were people in the 30's and from IT background , surprisingly and claiming to have given up their jobs to earn 100,000USD and yet having time for them selves as they will.Wow , indeed.The catch phrase being,"Don't work for Money, make Money work for you".

The catch however is, the products are freely available on line as well, though they claim it other wise.They are mostly nutrients with a big ticket , and glamor kits for ladies, that one needs to sell by word of mouth.Thankfully, you need not invest your own money more than 100USD and only create members that will hopefully, eventually get you towards the 100,000USD you have aimed for.The book they give to read states," create your wealth and be successful without being Ray croc of Mc Donald, or Bill Gates and their franchise systems.They ask you to list out 3 things one would like to do in life , most of it being, MONEY,travel, and retirement benefits.What if you have the money, made good plans by investing in assets that make more money for you ,have traveled a good part of the world, and wish to spend the rest of your life taking care of the society and its requirements at large , enjoying your space and time and not seeking more wealth than you really need for 2 square meals and a contented life?

I wonder ,member get member, door to door canvassing is what many brands do, and respectfully.What is it that these people promote and claim of creating millionaires world wide.There are IT employees having a good stake holding in the company they work and these stock options are worth millions now.They could just sign off and call it a day devoting the rest of their lives in philanthropic activities rather than run for more and more money.The parent company becomes worth billions of dollars as they have a million members ,but the team that fails to build more members will end up just a few feet away from where they started.

You need to carefully plan your personal, financial and professional goals and keep netting them , creating milestones at every step of the way, and then looking over the shoulder to take pride and enjoy life with your loved ones at every milestone you have created.Not everyone chooses to be an entrepreneur, but can be a successful , happy man,contented  in what ever he has done or does or keeps doing.

Kitchen Komplex

Cooking. The way to a male heart is through his stomach.That's what they say.How complex or simple can it be?See the flavors, then compare the looks, then the outcome and decide, do we Indians, complicate matters a lot for ourselves and make our own life complex?The sequence of events in a daily chore of an Indian housewife , makes me wonder, what if we were to simplify our life style, traditional Indian and also get the benefits from it to increase, free quality time for the wife at large?

Look at the advantages first.Awesome tastes, spicy, sweet, rich, fried,with Tadka that adds a feather to the cap and colorful display of yellow, green, red and whites, probably making Indian cuisine one of the most sought after in the global community.Yet what goes behind it, is the lop side.

Prep time.The longest.The ingredients, varying from 10-25 types.The fridge packed with stuff that is a must kind,for giving those flavors, rich in ginger garlic paste,( home made is preferred over market packed ) reason being the flavor and taste.Then come the fresh veggies, garlic pods, peeled, chopped and crushed. Onions,peeled, chopped and fine tuned to add value as per the recipe.The tomatoes, pureed , cut, sliced, diced, minced or whatever.The oils, Olive or Groundnut or Sunflower oil or Rice bran the latest gimmick in the marketing space.The type of frying,deep, shallow or oil free.The utensils according to the needs.The biggest fight being the dough ,and the kneading techniques.Its a fight with the flour and the consistency and the feel that gives the housewife a chance to develop her biceps.The flour could be ready made packed stuff which doesn't have the taste or texture, whereas getting the right grains from the right place, and the grinding them to the right consistency all that ultimately leads to the immense satisfaction of the housewife.These just become the main ingredients .The balance is yet to come.The accessories, home made curds, buttermilk, ghee( homemade) and chutneys, the pickles and much more.All these are available of the shelf as well  in the supermarkets ,but many of us still prefer to labor, and do it at home.Phew!!!!If one were to see the pickle making process, its like a  test of patience.To top all this , the whims and fancies of many an Indian mind, the cottage cheese( paneer) must be from a specific place and a specific texture etc etc.The preference in the family, some like it hot, others free of spice, less oil, fat free and the works.Whoa!!!!Its like running a commercial kitchen of sorts and dishing out plates as per a menu card.We also have the Jain menus and veg. and Non.Veg separations to add to the confusions.

With so much and more to come in form of desserts, a simple ice-cream or a jelly or fruit salad is not the finisher.Its the moong halwa, carrot halwa and the works that again require nothing than a Mahabharata episode in the making.This goes on and on and on.This is just a lunch, or dinner prep,imagine this routine, 24x7x365 days and 2 times a day apart from tea, coffee and breakfast, the Indian way.Being an Indian Male, I feel sad at these events and for the Lady in particular.

The last nail in the coffin being the tons of utensils that occupy the sink and awaits the maid's wrath the next day.A western kitchen on the other hand, sans the variety and flavors, is simple and thus give much more time to the lady of the house for her family and herself.Can we adopt this trend with a mix and match and make more free time for our ladies?.Maybe we may find a way to her heart!

Trap

Life is such an experience.Going through our story and being observers to many others, is indeed a much required boost to the level of awareness one must have.The essence and flavours of life, as perceived by all of us, becomes a cocktail of sorts and increases the spice in your journey.

But, when we see , rich families or those who have the royalty of being connected to relatives, ancestral properties and wealth and get a head start , miles ahead of others , need not necessarily be the ones to finish the race of life as winners.Where ever you go, we see people spending their entire life time struggling with courts, lawyers, and peace of mind lost for a piece of land, property that is to fetch them millions of dollars.Is it all worth it?What happens when we win the battle in the court of law and loose it in terms of health, due to the stress in getting us there?The bitter relations , the ultimate fallout's, risks of criminal intent and blackmail,and last but not least, being notorious and not  popularly known around in the social circuits.People at some point of time are so well off, and suddenly they experience the nadir of life.Others , struggle up the ladder , keep climbing and reach a point where they experience dizzying heights.The most important part is to keep your feet on the ground , be humble, and let go.When its time to leave this world, all that is history.

Bitter battles lead to animosity between brothers, parents, cousins, couples and much more.That leads to distraught family relations, envy, and hate and we spoil beautiful moments just for that materialistic desire.We lead a life of doubts cast at every person you come across, become opportunist and become a wreck.The medical bills skyrocket, the doctors flourish, the lawyers make hay while the sun shines, and you are always in the shadow and in the hole, called hell.

One life is what we have.If something is yours it will be yours.Let is take place at its own pace.Keep yourself happy and share that joy and see what comes your way.There is bliss at every step of your life if you wish to experience it. Its all in your hands.No one can be blamed for the choice you make.

Wo(W)man

The word captioned above is synonymous with strength, resilience, persistence,flexibility, agility, love,emotions and much more.With such an enormous amount of potential this person, be it the lady of the house who many assume does no work, or the lady at work, demonstrates such an ability that can leave the men from Mars way behind.

The girl child ,when she blossoms into a mother to be,the way she adapts to the changing world around and in her is simply unbelievable.God has made provisions for every small change that takes in your life ,especially when you are about to bring in one more life into this world.The diets and health restrictions, the routine checkups, the anxiety and curiosity about what next, the quarterly reviews and shifting gears to welcome the new entrant is a treat to watch.To assimilate the enormous amount of information available on the Internet and clubbing that up with the doctors advise and million others who have been mom's is a task at hand.Then comes the actual day when the child steps into this world, the ability of the girl child, changing over to a mother, ready to nurse, and bring up the kid, is a phenomenal leap.Balancing on all fronts, the husband and new dad, the baby and the mother attachments, the traditions and checks and balances, the do's and don't s etc is a humongous task.The feeds, the sleepless nights, the wailing kid, building up patience and tolerating the confinement one is subjected to due to hygienic reasons is also a big lesson in itself.

The mental and physical exertion , and stress that it brings about is not for everyone.The food and timings, the doctor's visits and checkups, the vaccine schedules, the massages and the mandatory rest in periods all this and more, just don't seem to end.The lady in question ,however is so cheerful and manages to go through the daily chores as if its routine.Then apart from that she manages home in a nuclear family, the food to be cooked, the clothes, her health and the people and their whims and fancies if any in the house.If she gets help at home from all hands then lucky,if not then god save this poor child.

With all this and more, we still doubt what a woman can deliver and underestimate her prowess.She can fly space missions, jet fighters, commercial flights,be executive chefs in major Hotel chains,teach, coach and be excellent in business analytics or for that matter running a financial institution.We as men , are lazy and comparing to the physical work or mental capabilities demonstrated by women , they indeed are WOW than MEN.Lets admit and accept .You need tea and food at your doorstep, your newspaper handy at all times, your relaxation times as you are the only one who apparently works and all this that gives you time to watch the news, and snore at 10 pm.On the other hand the lady is up early, kids to school, food to be prepared , work at office and home,kids homework,evening dinner and catering to the invites you may have made to impress your office folks, and end of the day after managing the maids and utilities etc she wishes to crash and catch up with some sleep when you want her company!!!!

Who is the super power then?Why are we against a girl child?Why do we underestimate them?Give them the respect and the helping hand and I am sure they deliver better.Be it in a boxing ring or in the hospital.Without them we are nothing.Hats of to them.Wish people keep aside their bloated egos and accept the truth.

Dark K(night )s

The late night party circuits, the typical snobbish crowds, the music, the dance, the muwah muwahs and glitzy dresses with booze and money spilling out of every pocket,the Louis Vuitton and the coaches meet and the show begins. Come Friday evening or better said weekend dusk's , and lo the party animals start getting into their gears. The ladies in their branded original or imitations but a must have dress for being recognised, the perfumes must attract or woo the person you meet, the stilettos , the lipsticks the jewellery, the makeup and clutches must have a distinct presence all in a bid to outshine the others.Then wait for the next big sacrificial goat who will pick you up in his swanky car ( owned, rented, or borrowed to impress the lady and the parking lot).as soon as that drives up ,the big Hi and muwahs start. The goat, I mean the male, struts around in an Armani or a diesel or Marks and Spencer black outfit as any other colour is a strict no. He reeks of Davidoff,CK,or a woody perfume with a Mont Blanc pen clipped to his jacket and dancing Jimmy Choos with a Lacoste belt tied up around his waist.There may be less cash in his fancy wallet but credit cards galore with a huge pending bills lined up for next month.Then out comes the exquistie Scotch in a crystal glass on the rocks in the car, and with the arm candy and the first swig the engines fire on all cylinders to start the party . Mind you ,you have to have 2-3 invites from prominent people so that you are held in high esteem on this pseudo circuit which otherwise considers you an out caste.

At the first venue, throw the keys to the valet in style and disrespect and walk past the doorman shoving a 500 ₹ note to keep his car parked right in front of the porch . He gets a grand salute and the arm candy is impressed.Then one enters the smog, sorry the fog created by smoke canisters and cigarettes , the loud music and the sea of elite( so called)party animals, make you feel as if you are entering the Jurassic park. And literally the swords are drawn , covered with a veil of course and facades start being seen."Hello darling"!!! , How have you been? We just met at xyz party yesterday and it was such a sham . Are you going to abc party tonite? If yes then you are equitable socially speaking, if not you are not important .the crowds brush  each other and the skirts slits start displaying those fascinating and not so fascinating legs. Roving eyeballs start reaching all corners and literally some of them give you the creeps as if they slide down every inch of your personal space.The cleavages displayed are a competition within and lead to security threats if found alone and turn out to be a challenge for the cops on duty.The drinks and cocktails mock the health charts and flow fast enough to challenge the Niagara Falls .No one cares a damn for food and when one realises that the who's who is there and you are spotted and noticed you move on to the next venue again to start the same Hippocratic process. One may come with a pink arm candy and go with a black one . The nights don't end, the  smoke in the lungs active or passively acquired is what one carries home with alcohol in the belly that inspire movies like Delhi belly.

What a life ? Then there are soft drugs, partner swaps, bitching of the highest caliber, deals and money changing hands and depressions and cravings for more to follow.Is this how we enjoy life?Get up next morning to start another Rendevouz and a new story unfolds.The we have page 3 scandals splashed all over the media and the fallouts are chewed and debated in the same circles.Who you come with the night before and who you get up next to the next morning is what pushes up the adrenaline in these party animals, which they call culture and teach the gen next how to blow up the money earned by your own folks .

AAP...

The new kid on the block on the Indian political scenario.A blessing or a disaster.?Boon or Bane? Thank the previous governments who ruled our country for Donkey years and messed up the canvas.They created scams, gates, controversies,and shamed us across borders.They had the good the bad and the ugly all kinds of personalities who seem to be embroiled in all such controversies time and again and yet coming out in the open defending their statements and stating that they have been misquoted.What a joke!Atleast the people of Delhi made one change and that was AAP.Jai Ho!! Kejriwal.

The Kejriwal phenomenon which has taken the country by storm, is also sailing in a boat that has to weather many storms inside and outside .I remember this quote"Be simple and smart , but not stupid".In real life we can make hundreds of statements and commitments, which may be doable or would appear plain unrealistic.Then he goes and grabs every opportunity to prove what he said and try to deliver on ground.This is very much scary.If we don't assess the depth and the priorities in which we need to address so many issues , it will be a big muddle.The intent may be good but by rushing into all these at once and trying to not only micro manage things but also assessing and validating candidates etc  would lead to utter chaos.People will demand tons of explanations even if you BURP.Then come the populist measures called Janata Durbar( People gatherings) to hear their grievances .The turnout and the wish list is so long that it becomes an Anaconda of alarming proportions and twines around your own neck.The very first day turns out to be a disaster where the cops had to bail out the CM.If you don't want the security etc under the guise of austerity measures its ok, but the risk in a place like India and its repercussions are huge.The poor beat cop gets thrashed and even more stressed realizing that he can see the risks and yet cannot act.

Wearing a cap and walking around as a candidate doesn't make everyone a Kejriwal.What's under the cap is what matters.The rush to spread the tentacles of AAP political ambitions is further going to make life miserable.We have inexperienced people who have never governed or addressed real complicated issues on ground.How does one expect them to deliver on all fronts , across India and on the Global fabric??Why the rush??Why not prove what one can deliver as a party in a smaller area and then get to grips with the larger issues.This is where inspite of being an IITian, and an IRS person, one may fail as  the technicalities and politics don't tread on the same space necessarily.I am also an optimist and wanting to change India but all this chaos and number crunching seems to make me pretty apprehensive and seeing the other party members shooting their mouths off at the drop of a hat literally is serious indeed.Hope , the people of India realize the same and drive sense and patience in this runaway train called AAP.

Jailbreak

Habits...Die hard.Man is so accustomed to being caged in his habits that they become virtual prisoners and that too for years.This leads to so much of inconvenience to people around that they make simple things into complicated tangles.I have come across people who state that they attribute their health to the strict regime and time table they follow , come what may.For example, get up at 4 in the morning and may be start their morning rituals with prayers, yoga, and probably a walk for an hour or so.Now here they put the lights on and or some music( devotional mostly) but the people around who are sleeping at that hour,especially after a hard days work, start stirring in their beds.The morning rituals end up being a sore point when you are all set to rush to office and  they want to have their bath even when they don't have to go anywhere at the same time.In event of you having a single bathroom, the time conflicts begin.Then they want a specific kind of tea with or without sugar and at a certain temperature etc which at times may have to be prepared separately .This causes a lot of disruptions especially when you are unwilling to budge from your time schedules and become stubborn.Even tastes, and smells, the quality of ingredients and the way things are presented start becoming hurdles for a peaceful day to day life of a common man.Some people are so finicky that they get on your nerves at times and create unpleasant situations that spoil a nice harmonious environment.

The food habits , low oil, low fat , low carb,  etc makes you so low that one might get into depression .One must strike a good balance in life and that applies to this as well in my opinion.Extremists are not welcome in this world anyway.Sleeping habits and afternoon siestas also are the silent zones at home.Medications have to be followed as a time table which I understand.The entertainment zone also becomes a habit and we get accustomed to watching a certain TV channel,certain time only inspite of the same programs being telecast 3 times in 24 hours .Even if one misses it, they can follow the same next day at noon maybe.But, the schedule has to be maintained even if it clashes with other people who want to see some other programs .

If we break these shackles and get out of the mind games and the prison that ties us down and gets us into habits that can easily be broken it would be peaceful.That helps all of us to make best use of the time you have and how that gels with others schedules without depriving them of good times.Moreover these habits sometimes put us under pressure and add tensions to life.If we inculcate the habits of flexibility at a young age then we can contribute to making the world a better place as we grow up.Respect your own as well as others time.

Big Bubble

The EGO and the rate at which it gets inflated and starts rising above sea level defying all laws of gravity and commonsense and understanding is very rampant now a days.You come across so many of these daily and to stay clear from that is a huge task for any individual.The resultant in most cases ends up in arguments, fights, emotional stress that kills you from within,depressions,and many more lethal outcomes depending on the capacity of the individuals concerned to sustain the same.

Its starts at a young age and if properly trained in the upbringing process can definitely make a good impression in the later years.I have come across extremely polite, gentle people who never lose their cool, appear good but foolish to the snobbish outside world but who actually  is a gem of an individual.By various psychological analysis one may interpret that as weak, docile, spineless etc but its not true.These are the people who know that getting into conflicts saps you out and leads to endless discussions and arguments that may some times become physically challenging as well.These are  the true, strong balanced individuals one must  try and become in life.But the Let GO portion is seldom taken up by people even if they preach the same to many others around.Actually it is simply....difficult.The situations that arise keep activating triggers at various times and points and depending on your state of mind, age, culture,upbringing etc you respond to stimuli.The big and the tall structured mostly feel that they can prevail over any situation physically as well as mentally .Perceptions ofcourse!!.Some just think they are the smart asses of this universe and that they can outdo any creature on this planet.A few are plain dumb stupid as they add no value to themselves as well as the society at large but still feel that they deserve respect and priority et- al.They live on a different planet and can be dispensed with actually.They not only make their own life complicated but the life of others depending on them or associated with them as well , be it in business or personal relations.

Trying to counsel, educate, talk it out or debate falls on deaf ears and the amount of exercise your tongue gets may make you loose weight and on the other hand add so much gas(helium) in the egoist ,that he/she just lifts of the planet.A pin is what that is required to prick these egos , but its easier said than done.Where and how conversations may lead to if this 3 letter word comes in between is anybodies guess.The strut of a rooster and the morning wake up alarm sets the tone for the day for any individual who loves to be in this hypo-critic, pseudo world of egoistic people.God has made them for all of us to accept the fact that be humble, down to earth ,simpleton and remember that if you cannot add any value don't erode it.

idiot box

Who ever penned this name, hats off!!When we go  across a wide cross section of people and find them relentlessly pursuing a certain serial(s) on one or more than those 200 plus channels is mind boggling.Various characters all painted , decked up and pitched against bright coloured sets that make the picture gaudy anyway for the tired eyes that would like to watch some sensible programme end of a long day.But , see the Indian sentiments.Emotions overflowing, anxiety creeping in every nook and corner,crime, pre- marital sex, children out of wedlock, affairs and deceit,suspense and drama,3 or sometimes 4 generations who sleep fully decked up in 1 ton jewellery , as if to say i am a mobile jewellery store.The actors, most of them novices and who spend 70% of their time with glycerine's in their eyes and adding to the woes of the common man ( in my opinion) by rubbing it in.The similar situation that many may face in real life and is looking for a crazy , fun loving, easy to absorb entertainment episode, ends up going to sleep with all the crap thrown at them ( 20 minutes of the serial, with stretched music sequences and close shots of the painted faces followed by advertisers in queue waiting to take their slice of emotional harassment.

To add to all this most members in the family prefer different serials or programs and the times clash.The well to do have their families split in 3 rooms with 3 TV's blaring 3 different programs till the people are yanked out to have dinner or lunch.The actors who succeed in drawing attention of the gullible audience manage to get a better draw and time on prime time shows at the cost of making thousands of spectators insane.See them talking to the press and they state" the love of the people is what matters" and as long as that survives, they survive.Then come the stupid award ceremonies with atrocious art sets and some times cheap comedy and aerobics that seem to have many jaw dropping scenes.I wonder what " MASK" would say if he were a real character seeing this .

The worst part being the episodes being re telecast and repeatedly aired at different times and people especially those who have retired or who have very less to do in life keeping watching the same **** over and again.God save this mad house.Don't we have anything creative that would engage us in a better way.We have some really interesting , factual, scientific, clean and nice comedy that is so watchable and informative.The mind refreshes end of the day with the clean comedy acts that makes you laugh away your worries rather than corrupt and clog your brains.Then come the scandals and reality shows, who kissed whom and who is dating whom and who broke up and who had a brawl in BIG **** etc !!!!!Some regional shows try to imitate the bigger content and end up being a hash or a poor production copy of the original.The actors are so loud, crude and outright ridiculous leaving aside a few seasoned players who live through their characters.

The coffee shows and interview of the rich and the famous with all scoops and attitude tossed around trying to show how cool the individuals are and on the side bitch around and create controversies , just to later state that they were misquoted.People love to enter somebody Else's life and walk around in their space where they have enough on their own end.If they don't have enough they get carried way and try to imitate and live a hollow, artificial life , convincing themselves  that they are the living gods.

Where will all this IDIOT box take us to as we do along?New channels repeating the same news 100 times, breaking it a million times claiming they stand up for the truth and facts only.Entertainment under the name of unrealistic shoddy shows and glycerin pools is going to make the world a complex , psychotic place leading to more crimes, rapes, abortions, murder and divorces.Hope channels like national geographic,TLC etc who try to bring the reality and nature into the households adding value to every individual flourish.

God bless all those who plan to retire and request them to take quick measures to ensure their quality of life is better and not worse in the final hours.