Came across a lady working in a bank and is about to retire in the next 6 months.Husband , expired when he was just 22 years of age.Children well set , one in the armed forces and one an IT professional settled in the USA.Both married and settled.The lady of the house however is taking care of her in laws aged 90 years plus, one hard of hearing and the other restricted movements due to ageing.A care taker maid 365x24x7 at their service.A small tenement in a small city,and now will be having huge time on hand.
The lady has to restrict her diet and cook only bland , soft food that the in laws can digest.The moment she gets a chance to help her self with the food the colleagues bring she is all set to even take it home if need be just so that she has a change in her routine.
So technically , she has everything and yet restricts her self and her life every day she lives .Devoting all that for her in laws for over so many years and now when she stops working , she will face a huge question mark?That being , so much free time and yet unable to move anywhere due to the 90 plus dependents that pose the restriction.
What does one do in such a case?One life you have to live.The present generation , though well set are not wanting to share the responsibility or see that their mother gets some space or a breath of fresh air.The in laws having lived 90 years plus still want to continue living in the same place/House for their friends and social connect etc etc.So you live, and don't allow the younger ones to live their life is it?Isn't this a catch 22 situation.?Are you born in this world just to suffer, silently or otherwise?Is it fair for this lady?What should the children do?Can they not lend a helping hand, find a better option and make her life a bit better.If one were to look back she could be a small % of mother Teresa with no Nobel prize.
People live long, its a part of destiny ,and not much can be done about it.But ,by being stubborn and blocking the way of living of their family members is not fair , i guess.You must not deprive the lady of the possibility of spending the next few years of her life post retirement in a way she would love to,and relax and enjoy , even if her in laws decide to complete a century and enter the books of world records, where this lady would never find a mention.The lady still manages to put a smile, tries to mingle with everyone and puts up a brave face.Hats off!!!
The lady has to restrict her diet and cook only bland , soft food that the in laws can digest.The moment she gets a chance to help her self with the food the colleagues bring she is all set to even take it home if need be just so that she has a change in her routine.
So technically , she has everything and yet restricts her self and her life every day she lives .Devoting all that for her in laws for over so many years and now when she stops working , she will face a huge question mark?That being , so much free time and yet unable to move anywhere due to the 90 plus dependents that pose the restriction.
What does one do in such a case?One life you have to live.The present generation , though well set are not wanting to share the responsibility or see that their mother gets some space or a breath of fresh air.The in laws having lived 90 years plus still want to continue living in the same place/House for their friends and social connect etc etc.So you live, and don't allow the younger ones to live their life is it?Isn't this a catch 22 situation.?Are you born in this world just to suffer, silently or otherwise?Is it fair for this lady?What should the children do?Can they not lend a helping hand, find a better option and make her life a bit better.If one were to look back she could be a small % of mother Teresa with no Nobel prize.
People live long, its a part of destiny ,and not much can be done about it.But ,by being stubborn and blocking the way of living of their family members is not fair , i guess.You must not deprive the lady of the possibility of spending the next few years of her life post retirement in a way she would love to,and relax and enjoy , even if her in laws decide to complete a century and enter the books of world records, where this lady would never find a mention.The lady still manages to put a smile, tries to mingle with everyone and puts up a brave face.Hats off!!!
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