Death....the last act in life where the curtains fall on the drama that one has to enact ,be it 0-90 years or more.Looking back it may appear that some have played a lead role and some support actors or even extras in life.This is adjudged mainly by the meaningful contribution one has done in his/her life as well as in others life around them.The crowds that turn up to attend the last rites may be an indicator for sure.Does one get remembered like receiving a lifetime achievement award or people are relieved that there is one less nuisance in this world.
The truth however emerges as you engage with the crowd and understand how many have gathered just to show their physical presence, with little or no grief in the true sense, and others ,who create a big racket bursting out loud and scaring and waking the peaceful soul that is actually onto its new journey to a peaceful abode.The fact remains that when this being who is no more was alive the same people squabbled,fought,went legal,may be even separated as partners in business or love,fought tooth and nail over brick and mortar,and now suddenly may have a sense of relief that without that soul life is less complicated, probably.Barring the genuine few close blood relations,those too may be truthfully grieved, may exhibit real emotions.Here too we never know what may be scheming in the minds of these "close"relations.Is it $$$$$$ or sadness?
The conversations that take place at the last rites also are strange.People like to be sadist and keep pestering the bereaved family with the same questions like"how,why,when,so sad...etc etc!!!!!What can we say,isn't that torture?Rather than pushing them deeper into the sorrows we need to pull them out and easen their tensions.Assure them that by crying they will hurt the departed soul,and instead they should pray for eternal peace and thank god for making one soul suffer less in the daily hurdles of life.Think and talk about what he contributed in life and how he/she laid the foundation to a better world for the gen next.Never touch upon commercials,business,property etc etc atleast in those days.Try help the bereaved tide over those moments by morally,physically and mentally if not financially extending support to complete formalities,help assist in transportation,accompany them where ever needed,just be by their side silently and do more than just talk.
Life is a drama played out on a big stage where each one plays his/her role and his/her time of entry and exit is planned much earlier by almighty, which can never change.So instead of squabbling,play the role of peace maker,spread love and make people aware of themselves and their surroundings so much so that they make their journey here and beyond a truly memorable one.
The truth however emerges as you engage with the crowd and understand how many have gathered just to show their physical presence, with little or no grief in the true sense, and others ,who create a big racket bursting out loud and scaring and waking the peaceful soul that is actually onto its new journey to a peaceful abode.The fact remains that when this being who is no more was alive the same people squabbled,fought,went legal,may be even separated as partners in business or love,fought tooth and nail over brick and mortar,and now suddenly may have a sense of relief that without that soul life is less complicated, probably.Barring the genuine few close blood relations,those too may be truthfully grieved, may exhibit real emotions.Here too we never know what may be scheming in the minds of these "close"relations.Is it $$$$$$ or sadness?
The conversations that take place at the last rites also are strange.People like to be sadist and keep pestering the bereaved family with the same questions like"how,why,when,so sad...etc etc!!!!!What can we say,isn't that torture?Rather than pushing them deeper into the sorrows we need to pull them out and easen their tensions.Assure them that by crying they will hurt the departed soul,and instead they should pray for eternal peace and thank god for making one soul suffer less in the daily hurdles of life.Think and talk about what he contributed in life and how he/she laid the foundation to a better world for the gen next.Never touch upon commercials,business,property etc etc atleast in those days.Try help the bereaved tide over those moments by morally,physically and mentally if not financially extending support to complete formalities,help assist in transportation,accompany them where ever needed,just be by their side silently and do more than just talk.
Life is a drama played out on a big stage where each one plays his/her role and his/her time of entry and exit is planned much earlier by almighty, which can never change.So instead of squabbling,play the role of peace maker,spread love and make people aware of themselves and their surroundings so much so that they make their journey here and beyond a truly memorable one.
Our social activity is mostly a pretense. We do it because we HAVE to do it, not because we want. This is applicable everywhere and not restricted to funerals or weddings.
ReplyDeleteThe practice of asking the questions How,when etc etc is based on the age old belief that the repetition blunts the emotional outburst and eases the tension and the sorrow. It helps the catharsis and reverting back to normalcy.
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