The rituals and ceremonies for arranged marriages done in India and many other countries is on for centuries.It seems a bit odd but to raise some fundamental queries about the whole process and debate about why not every individual get a chance to seek or choose his or her own partner .Alternately even decide upon if or not to get into the long term commitments of marriage which is an institution in its self.
On one hand we teach right from childhood not to talk to strangers and on this day we ask the same person to even sleep with the unknown partner under the title" arranged Marriage". The entire life is at stake with one move.Then we have the ceremony that starts all this which clearly states "lady on display" ,the suitors please come see, evaluate and have the right to reject.This is very unfair and unfortunate.Why do the male egos prevail?Imagine the state of a girl who gets repeatedly rejected on frivolous grounds who could end up in a depression.
Every time one needs to deck up and present ones self like you have a new product that has arrived or an old product in new packaging.Very crude and sad.Even to sell the "item on display" which i feel sad to even quote, the family members go flat out to add spice and ensure that this is the best thing that is going to happen to the suitor ever.What can one know in a single meeting?Matching of the horoscopes?Matching of stars and times of birth?With all this still nothing can be assured as marriages are made in heaven and only God almighty knows that.If one gets a chance to spend time on a mental level to adjust and adapt and try to match ones wavelength with the other , maybe there is a better chance, who knows?
The perils in life are many but this is the most dangerous amongst the lot.Let us all educate the parents and the young generation to cooperate and take things in stride and create a better environment so as to build a future that they would be happy to live.
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