Many of us , have encountered this dilemma, where in at just on the cusp of adulthood ,the age where you are out to impress the world , especially the most important asset being , some one latching on to you on the rear seat of the bike ,while you zoom through the streets of the city or in the hilly terrains that were unexplored thus far.
It all starts maybe with the peer pressures surrounding you , and or bets challenging your manhood to perform an act that is blown up to be seen as the stunt of the century.Some people have the equipment like cash, credit cards with their parents having given them the free credit line to splurge and others who are not so fortunate trying their hand at an experiment that keeps their BP surging like mount Everest or going deep below to the lowest point of the pacific ocean, depending upon the success ratio.
The biggest duel in our minds at that age is , though each entity involved male or female wishes to experience that phase , makes it complex, difficult and some times even giving a hard time even to know or gauge each other.Those who ultimately take the chance , get results for sure.Positive or otherwise.Some blame it on destiny .Some have perceptions , as to what the other person would say etc. and in that may be miss a huge opportunity to connect with a like minded person .Being shy ,and an introvert , pushes you miles back and even leads to fits of depression, lack of self esteem and just getting into a shell.
In this whole exercise of proving a point and scoring brownies, one has to go through a testing phase that sometime burns you out and defeats your will and logic .At times it pushes you aggressively to move into the next level and resort to undesirable actions that lead to destroying the life of a person and land up with a criminal offence , just because you did not succeed. The down side where ,, without reasoning people start taking anti depressants and even go to extremes ending up a beautiful journey called life.
The biggest mistake is , who do we have to prove to and what and why? Is it to someone who is least bothered or concerned with you and your well being , who keeps pushing and nagging you to reach a break point for no reason.Do you , without checking the facts , presume certain non verbal communication and take steps basis that to either make or break a possible relation.
If you have seen both the sexes in their own worlds , they have fanciful dreams, aspirations and only waiting to be pushed beyond the fence.Amongst each group they are a racket , with quotes and actions that are unbelievable at times .Talk to each other to really find out what it takes to just connect as 2 humans and not with the sole objective of physical contact.We are so obsessed because of a differential upbringing and taboos that the moment we step out of home we are waiting to be superman or women.Trying to hide our faces , mask them and runaway to the distant hills , throwing caution to the winds,where prying eyes can be more dangerous. To make one situation happen , we risk the other waiting in store.Then the blame game starts and we see only depressing headlines in the newspapers and TV.
If we are on that ,"Let me show the world" trip ,we are mistaken . Remember the on line and offline space provides you these so called opportunities always , almost every place.Your mind must be matured enough to make an entry into Adulthood. Do you really have it in you to show the world with a bold face that yes, you are the right pair as seen through each others eyes and not for the world to judge, and face the consequences, good or bad? Then why hide, and find escape routes.Why can't the people around create a healthy ambience for both sexes to move freely and live like 2 good beings sent to this world for a purpose apart from the Physical aspect of it.We glamorise this in films, fan the hidden fires within such element that lead to self destruction .
The GenX and Gen Z all are making bold moves.Are they really matured to absorb the growing independence of mind and body that is resulting in fast divorces and separations even before they have their first annual Bonus.?Aspirations on one side, quick go getters on the other hand, no time and loads of money to offload on the kids with no accountability is driving this millennium into a black hole.
It all starts maybe with the peer pressures surrounding you , and or bets challenging your manhood to perform an act that is blown up to be seen as the stunt of the century.Some people have the equipment like cash, credit cards with their parents having given them the free credit line to splurge and others who are not so fortunate trying their hand at an experiment that keeps their BP surging like mount Everest or going deep below to the lowest point of the pacific ocean, depending upon the success ratio.
The biggest duel in our minds at that age is , though each entity involved male or female wishes to experience that phase , makes it complex, difficult and some times even giving a hard time even to know or gauge each other.Those who ultimately take the chance , get results for sure.Positive or otherwise.Some blame it on destiny .Some have perceptions , as to what the other person would say etc. and in that may be miss a huge opportunity to connect with a like minded person .Being shy ,and an introvert , pushes you miles back and even leads to fits of depression, lack of self esteem and just getting into a shell.
In this whole exercise of proving a point and scoring brownies, one has to go through a testing phase that sometime burns you out and defeats your will and logic .At times it pushes you aggressively to move into the next level and resort to undesirable actions that lead to destroying the life of a person and land up with a criminal offence , just because you did not succeed. The down side where ,, without reasoning people start taking anti depressants and even go to extremes ending up a beautiful journey called life.
The biggest mistake is , who do we have to prove to and what and why? Is it to someone who is least bothered or concerned with you and your well being , who keeps pushing and nagging you to reach a break point for no reason.Do you , without checking the facts , presume certain non verbal communication and take steps basis that to either make or break a possible relation.
If you have seen both the sexes in their own worlds , they have fanciful dreams, aspirations and only waiting to be pushed beyond the fence.Amongst each group they are a racket , with quotes and actions that are unbelievable at times .Talk to each other to really find out what it takes to just connect as 2 humans and not with the sole objective of physical contact.We are so obsessed because of a differential upbringing and taboos that the moment we step out of home we are waiting to be superman or women.Trying to hide our faces , mask them and runaway to the distant hills , throwing caution to the winds,where prying eyes can be more dangerous. To make one situation happen , we risk the other waiting in store.Then the blame game starts and we see only depressing headlines in the newspapers and TV.
If we are on that ,"Let me show the world" trip ,we are mistaken . Remember the on line and offline space provides you these so called opportunities always , almost every place.Your mind must be matured enough to make an entry into Adulthood. Do you really have it in you to show the world with a bold face that yes, you are the right pair as seen through each others eyes and not for the world to judge, and face the consequences, good or bad? Then why hide, and find escape routes.Why can't the people around create a healthy ambience for both sexes to move freely and live like 2 good beings sent to this world for a purpose apart from the Physical aspect of it.We glamorise this in films, fan the hidden fires within such element that lead to self destruction .
The GenX and Gen Z all are making bold moves.Are they really matured to absorb the growing independence of mind and body that is resulting in fast divorces and separations even before they have their first annual Bonus.?Aspirations on one side, quick go getters on the other hand, no time and loads of money to offload on the kids with no accountability is driving this millennium into a black hole.
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