Battle of the Sexes

Many of us , have encountered this dilemma, where in at just on the cusp of adulthood ,the age where you are out to impress the world , especially the most important asset being , some one latching  on to you on the rear seat of the bike ,while you zoom through  the streets of the city or in the hilly terrains that were unexplored thus far.

It all starts maybe with the peer pressures surrounding you  , and or bets challenging your manhood to perform an act that is blown up to be seen as the stunt of the century.Some people have the equipment like cash, credit cards  with their parents having given them the free credit line to splurge and others who are not so fortunate trying their hand at an experiment that keeps their BP surging like mount Everest or going deep below to the lowest point of the pacific ocean, depending upon the success ratio.

The biggest duel in our minds at that age is , though each entity involved male or female wishes to experience that phase , makes it complex, difficult and some times even giving a hard time even to know or gauge each other.Those who ultimately take the chance , get results for sure.Positive or otherwise.Some blame it on destiny .Some have perceptions , as to what the other person would say etc. and in that may be miss a huge opportunity to connect with a like minded person .Being shy ,and an  introvert , pushes you miles back and even leads to fits of depression, lack of self esteem and just getting into a shell.

In this whole exercise of proving a point and scoring brownies, one has to go through a testing phase that sometime burns you out and defeats your will and logic .At times it pushes you aggressively to move into the next level and resort to undesirable actions that lead to destroying the life of a person and land up with a criminal offence , just because you did not succeed. The down side where ,, without reasoning people start taking anti depressants and even go to extremes ending up a beautiful journey called life.

The biggest mistake is , who do we have to prove to and what  and why? Is it to someone who is least bothered or concerned with you and your well being , who keeps pushing and nagging you to reach a break point for no reason.Do you , without checking the facts , presume certain non verbal communication and take steps basis that to either make or break a possible relation.

If you  have seen both the sexes in their own worlds , they  have fanciful dreams, aspirations and only waiting to be pushed beyond the fence.Amongst each group they are a racket , with quotes and actions that are unbelievable at times .Talk to each other to really find out what it takes to just connect as 2 humans and not with the sole objective of physical contact.We are so obsessed because of a differential upbringing and taboos that the moment we step out of home we are waiting to be superman or women.Trying to hide our faces , mask them and runaway to the distant hills , throwing caution to the winds,where prying eyes can be more dangerous. To make one situation happen , we risk the other waiting in store.Then the blame game starts and we see only depressing headlines in the newspapers and TV.

If we are on that ,"Let me  show the world" trip ,we are mistaken . Remember the on line and offline space provides you these so called opportunities always , almost every place.Your mind must be matured enough to make an entry into Adulthood. Do you really have it in you to show the world with a bold face that yes, you are the right pair as seen through each others eyes and not for the world to judge, and face the consequences, good or bad? Then why hide, and find escape routes.Why can't the people around create a healthy ambience for both sexes to move freely and live like 2 good beings sent to this world for a purpose apart from the Physical aspect of it.We glamorise this in films, fan the hidden fires within such element that lead to self destruction .

The GenX and Gen Z all are making bold moves.Are they really matured to absorb the growing independence of mind and body that is resulting in fast divorces and separations even before they have their first annual Bonus.?Aspirations on one side, quick go getters on the other hand, no time and loads of money to offload on the kids with no accountability is driving this millennium into a black hole. 

Aabo

This word "Aabo" means so much to me , I can never equate it with any thing else as priceless as this.That's the word my grandson calls me.It may be so true for many others , moving in the same stream and phase of life.The sheer happiness it generates is the ultimate I guess one can experience in this circle of life.You see yourself in him, his actions and your mind strays back into the yesteryear's when you try to remember how you could have been then.

The day of his entering our lives till date , be it in close proximity or a few hundred kms. away from us, the affection seen on his face during a face time call or the innocence and mischief that adds a whole lot of flavour to the the relationship every time. For him, it seem every word starts with "Aabo".The pressure comes back on you to deliver 100% every time so that you are  able to bring him up in the best possible manner in these times of chaotic fast paced life.

The growing years , the bonnie baby snaps to the smartie boy looks , the curiosity that drives you up the tree and the pranks that keep you n the toes are heart warming.The formative years , the new rhymes and chatter , the small expectations, the delight on his face with the smallest of things given to him, the copycat habits make you roll on the floor laughing.The best part is coming back from work in a professional outfit and waiting to get down on all fours gibberish communication, rolling on the floor driving small cars,colouring every possible sheet of paper with crayons or colour pencils and even ball pens This adds huge colour to your life. Watching the days go by and seeing those fast progressive years , I thank my daughter for having put in so much of effort and pain to make every moment he lives a memorable one. The first outings in a pram, graduating to the  levels of differentiating car brands and makes,identifying horns from a distance to the extent of being intuitive.That is how life evolves.

Now waiting for the next phase and being ready to experience another bundle of joy, to be delivered by the stork  shortly, that would add to the harmony of my life.Back to getting yourself fitter and more resilient to find out what more creativity I need to imbibe in myself to keep the tiny brain engaged and manage the double engine , with tons of power and extremely demanding circumstances due to the generation gap.

Cannot express my feelings better than this and wait for the gifts god bestows on mankind ,and make you develop yourself , to experience the true meaning of life and its evolution.Every step a learning platform and the field so vast that one can just keep stepping closer to the ever moving goal post-THE HORIZON OF LIFE.

Aware

How many of us do the daily rigmarole of getting up in the morning , doing your chores and going through the motions , of the mundane professional life, passing comments about the monotony at work and the colleagues who may be inspiring or sheer dead wood , in your opinion.Again , its a perception or a view point solely held by you.

This seem to happen for years and we after all the cribbing and cursing we still find ourselves stuck in the rut , like a lotus in a swamp , as far as you are concerned. We just seem to want everything else around you to change and be nice to suit yourself and your thinking and lifestyle, without thinking what you could do with your self , and your thinking .

I have come across people , who have been opening bank passbooks for years or doing a mundane 9 to 5 job,at the same place, possibly same grade and just resigned to life and its pensioner ways.Imagine , wasting all that energy and youthfulness , destroying the moments you are supposed to create in your life and live them.Instead you get to just settle in and spin a cobweb around your self trying to be a cocoon , when you are supposed to be a moth taking flights and exploring the world.

Look around you.Are you simply aware of what is actually happening to you and around you? Being aware is far different from passing through a phase or a situation.Small things around you are visible and noticed , only if you have the peace of mind to relate to it.Be it even a whiff of fresh air .We are all so mesmerised by the materialistic pseudo world that giving quality time to your self  , is just too distant a dream.Look at the noise, the war like zones, animosity, conflicts, lust and sheer erosion of peace, and quiet around us.Look how complicated people are and wanting to make a mess of things by muddling decisions , creating chaos and making that further unorganised .Why cannot we pace down and look at what we have created and what legacy we wish to leave for the Gen Z?

I come across whiners many a times , who love to be Victims in their own lives and trying to find a shoulder to cry every moment .Passing the buck on the next door guy becomes a habit.Waiting for instructions without using the brilliance of the gray matter given by God at the time of birth .Can we not just make a small difference to this world every day, if not every moment and add value to your self being as well as the matter around you?

If we take a short walk in the mornings and learn to appreciate nature, the chirping of the birds  and the whiff of fresh air , if any ,around you, would set the context for a good day.You will find a lot of new ideas hop in to your mind  at that time.Turn them into actions and see the pleasure of owning those deeds.Make small , spur of the moment decisions that delight you .Don't keep thinking about the result .Give a lot in the form of love, happiness, spread cheer and joy and laugh at your own self, it will make you stronger , more aware of yourself and the surroundings.Being by your self and finding the MOJO in you, will be a delight.Take the ME time every day in the evening or night and erase the day gone by to reboot into your next 24 Hours.What say?