dumb charades

The game ,,,,,an intelligent one when played by the rules.

However, I see a lot of DUMB people trying to play that game in everyday life.When they speak, they make the things complex.Clarity, pitch, words, decibel all are askew.They are suppose to sell, over phone, across the table and end up muddling things so much that they come to the highest authority with that "DUMB" look and you know what has transpired.

I get so irate with these people who try to spoil and upset your mental calm and peace and try to make the iceberg a volcano.You can only go and bang your head against the wall and injure yourself and or boil and raise the blood pressure and get yourself to jump of a cliff.But.......................

Is communication that difficult?If a dumb expression communicates so much , do words complicate matters.I guess , its true.Silence speaks.Facial expressions give away a lot and more.Words however get into conflict, tangles,and quarrels.When the matters heat up, one can go into a shell and keep quite and yet express much more than the train of words , with irrelevant expressions and pauses messing up a simple situation.Fear of facing the consequences,spineless, zero accountability,limited scope of understanding and foolery all lead to disastrous results.

Words engage, egos bloat and clash of the Titans takes place.The BP rises and the words flow like an over flooded dam above the danger level mark and flood and destroy anything that comes in its way.Sometimes , as the river changes course, the subject matter also deviates and we have a long haul in sight.

Good to be quite and even if you know whats happening , give that dumbest expression that would make the world wonder and nominate you to the "BELIEVE IT OR NOT "archives.

Crab Club

The crab mentality.What a phrase!Its so apt in India and maybe similar to some extent in other countries ,but prevalent on a large scale here.(Self assessment).People stand up and claim many things about themselves.Self belief .But if they stand in front of a mirror, the mirror will crack out of sheer embarrassment.They have such inflated egos, misconceptions of self and float around as if they are the highest helium gas reserves in the universe.

When in an organisation, people serve for a few years, some have experience from elsewhere and join them, and some are freshers .When it comes to performance evaluations, result oriented individuals need not even speak as the outcome speaks for itself.The measures, process and a fair and logical evaluation done over 12 months with midterm reviews obviously set a clear trend about which direction ones career is progressing.Moreover , when in open forums you are asked"Who amongst you aspire to be a team lead or a Manager" and no one volunteers or expresses his desire then the options are clear.So when the time comes, the management takes a decision , obviously not in favour of the so called "helium family"which then immediately loose the gas .

The immediate reaction,"what does the management think, we don't exist?".Why should they elevate Mr."x" and "what will they do if I am not around?".No one is indispensable and that is clear.No organisation works because of a single individual.It's a team.You could rock the boat , not dream of sinking it.In fact I believe, shedding of dead wood makes the tree lighter, brighter and smart.Even the boat that anyone wishes to rock,becomes faster , leaner and having offloaded the excess baggage senses a new direction and a course.But crabs as we are, we won't allow the person elevated to have a smooth run and neither want self to move and add value.Just create the barriers and hurdles trying to make simple things complicated.That where the litmus test of the new  leader or Manager starts.

Its like putting all crabs in a Glass jar and watching them pull each other so no one reaches the top.
Sad but true.Such cheap and low mentality people should be put in boiling hot water and watch them go orange, when they can be clipped with clippers and juiced out with their so called phony shells and dumped in a garbage can.Taste not guaranteed, however.

Nostalgia

I have a certain experience which I want to share through this medium.It may be of interest to a few , and others may just want to ignore it .Its fine with me.

I was never a strong believer in Almighty till 1993 when I lost my beloved father.I felt that huge vacuum and the worst part being  staying in the Gulf and not been able to be with him during the time where I needed to be the most .Everything stood still.It was kind of a darkness that descended.He was a major source of strength and support to me .The only time I saw tears in his eyes were,when I was departing to the gulf in 1989 , my first overseas trip, into a place where I had no one, and was walking blindly into an arena hoping to create a future for me and my family.I had seen them ( my parents) go through the grind, selling butter on a bicycle and having spent years struggling to give us the right platform.He was so principled  and never budged from that ever.He said" Son, I have no idea about being abroad , and you are the first in the family to go there".take care and he hugged me.I tried to make my future there and wanted to get my parents overseas.Unfortunately that remained a distant dream.I tried every way possible, got the visa and then as destiny had its say, it didn't happen.
I was devastated.

At that time I met my Guru.I was told to set up an appointment with god every Sunday at 0430 hrs in the morning at the "MATH" which is the temple, where he had taken a Samadhi.The fact was, god doesn't want you to be with him 365x24x7, because he is always there with you , and we don't realise that.But when you go to him , make it at that day, a time and place where he would love to see you .Believe me, I could do that uninterrupted for 12 long years , every Sunday, even If I had to travel overnight, on bikes, in a rickshaw(auto), rains or not,and 22 kms from the place where I lived.Never once did I face any problem reaching him in time .That gave me enough resilience and determination to believe in my self and stand up for it.

Its his energy and intuitive powers that flow through when I blog.Trust me , all that I write is spontaneous, never more than 5 minutes and in one go.If the post is not to be there , it just doesn't finish.What i start , I finish.The words, the humour, the sincerity , the emotions all just flow through.
I cannot explain many a times how that happens, but I know its special.That people appreciate, like it , get inspired is my biggest happiness.

My dad's dreams may have come true by this .I know I miss him a lot and just wanted to pen it so that some where in space , he might get a chance to read it too.Love you dad.

Stealth

The word stealth...undetected, and lethal.Capable of huge potential to destruct or otherwise.High potential underutilized many a times.Be it an unmanned reconnaissance vehicle,a Bomber at high altitude or a WOMAN.

The lady is always underestimated and right from the time she gives birth to a child which itself is a phenomenal feat, the huge multitasking she does as a daughter, as a wife , as a working lady denotes the potent power she possess.Yet, we keep doubting this person, her capabilities and keep her away from giving her equal footing and level playing field in all spheres of life.

I am a ladies man!!Don't get me wrong, what I mean is I am in a minority in my house with all ladies around me.Having been through a lot in the past 5 decades of my  life, i must say I have enough insights on the Women power aspect.

The plus points to state a few:

Very emotional
Very sincere
Very good at multitasking
Excellent shoppers and good at keeping money aside for a rainy day as well .
High on energy and enthusiasm.
Mostly systematic and clean in their approach.
Can balance work and play and still have enough energy to keep everyone happy at home.
Know their way in the kitchen and manage to concoct reciepes that  are mind blowing.
Awesome at haggling and earn every bit of that margin back.

The areas of improvements as such:

The natures gift given by almighty is loaded with tons of chemicals to prevent the natures gifts like sun, breeze, dust,etc from not affecting them.
Time management is non existent in most cases
Traffic discipline and confidence is majorly missing.
I got habituated to the morning news because I got them at my desk faster than BBC world correspondent could get them, especially when you have a lot of ladies staff with you at work.
G O S S I P..........................eternal bliss.
CHATTER..........................Vodafone survives and profits from them.
There would be no colour without ladies............
MASTER OF FACADE .....works for many as they are very difficult to make out at times.More like a coconut....hard on the outside and soft ,sweet and cool inside.
Giving them a credit card may destabilize the fiscal budget
They tell a big story when you just need a bottom line!!!!
Remember the dates and times, anniversaries and birthdays and of course girlfriends and admirers of yours very well.....even if they are a decade old.
Get them at a dinner table in a group and you can feel as isolated as if you are stranded on an island in the midst of nowhere, unless you make them realize you are the only palm tree on that.
Bad at mathematics but remember shapes and sizes very well.
High on observation skills and can beat a radar hands down.
Nasal power too good.....smell alcohol and smoke at 10 feet away .....any ways of trying to beat it is a feeble attempt to show you are smart.....
Carry a mobile warehouse with them in their bags that can spill out 10000 things from the smallest clip to a pepperspray.

Wake up lady you  must realize how much you can do in this world.You have it in you and must not be a follower but lead the way.Be it space, or 20000 leagues under the sea, you can do what you think is MISSION IMPOSSIBLE.

Inspiration

Hey , all you lovely guys and gals out there on the web.Its so heartening to see the readers spanning across 31 countries, viewing, reading, enjoying my posts that one feels elated and overjoyed.

I have been blogging for over 19 months and have @330 plus posts on various topics as they happen in real life.Some are spiritual, some realtime as they take place in my city. Some that you read and see on TV and press and some from experience.All these are spur of the moment spontaneous write ups and take me approximately 4-7 minutes to complete in one sitting.Its just plain flow of thoughts as they appear and need to be penned down immediately.

What I would like to get is comments, reactions, responses, feedback, critique and also am very eager to know who are those people behind these that give me the motivation to do more.If you really like these posts, let me know.People from Finland, Latvia, Venezuela, China, Oman,Japan,Russia are the ones that intrigue me.Its good to have friends and well wishers who can really motivate me and one fine day I wish to write a small book on these experiences as well as train, coach, mentor and guide the new generation .

Please be kind enough to join as members or give your candid feedback as regular readers about what you feel and express the same .

Thanks in anticipation.

I, ME, MYSELF

What a sequence.This is observed by us daily and such blokes who go about tom tomming and blowing their trumpet , however harsh and out of synch it may sound ,and take pride in underlining their so called achievements.

The look, the arrogance, the artificial aura and the air that suffocates are a sight to watch.Every second step they have the word "I",and on other occasions its "ME".Total narcissists.
What you wear , what you speak reeks of sheer arrogance and at times snobbishness.The whole world is holed up into the letters "I""ME""MYSELF".That is a blackhole.

What would happen if others were not there?Who would he or she go and trumpet around?Imagine if his parents wouldn't have bought this individual to this world,he wouldn't be there( What a relief it would have been!!).Then if he wasn't taught by teachers , he still wouldn't exist!And ofcourse what ever he does in life if he has no body to tell, he would be a big ZERO.They however don't realise this as they are blinded.Imagine when they suffer a big blow to there EGO's.They refuse to step back and grace fully accept defeat.They will always have their nose  in every situation and like to have a finger in every pie.Their sheer presence makes it obnoxious.They strut around like a peacock without feathers and grace.The way they argue or try and put forth their point of view which is foggy most of the times, is a joke.Lord Brahma, who is the creator of the universe, would also feel left out in their world as he would never feature in any of their creations ever.

WE and US will never exist in their dictionaries.Imagine living with a person like this as a life partner.It is as good as virtual existence.You are a non entity.I have seen such people dragging themselves under the shadows of these egoistic blokes and live for years.How do they survive and what life is that is anybody's guess.

Body walk

Such an interesting phrase...body language!!The body speaks and we must be able to pick up the clues.People call them selves experts and writes books and research on this topic.This is seen in every day life at home and work.The question is , how aware are we??Do we really notice this or just the butterflies in beautiful dresses that walk on stilts and reek of perfumes that attract attention.For the opposite sex may be the brawn, macho,handsome, 6 pack Hunk is all that matters.

I notice people who drag their feet and carry themselves around the place as if they have the worlds heaviest bell tied to their feet.The feet are at an angle of 30 degrees pointing inwards,maybe both or one of them ,especially the left for sure.The knees wobbly or rubbing against each other till they generate enough friction and possibly catch fire( The only spark in that personality , perhaps).Then we can really assess every inch and make statements which need not be personal but a critique in the sense that a change in that may elevate a personality of an individual and take him ahead much faster.

In interviews, the entry at the door, the posture, the composure, the energy , the confidence exuded by the eyes and the handshake that follows, the determination and sights set on the objective of the event is a fascinating study.Every person if one starts assessing at every encounter in his or her life , one can get a Phd in the same.

Step back and check the personality of the baby in a mothers womb by how hard it kicks and how frequently it kicks to assess the confidence and energy of the new arrival.Then how strongly it wails when it faces the new world out of the comfort zone ,how pleasing a smile it gives when he or she smiles in their sleep.How hard the grip is on the finger you give them.So much to decipher and so much to understand about a persona just by the body talk.

Then comes the first step, the run and then the ultimate rushhour:).Facial expressions, the twitches,the dimples,the fidgety nature, twiddling of thumbs,rubbing the nose, blinking of the eye and what not.Every step you keep revealing your state of mind and the basic nature.If understood by the opponent could make you loose the battle.If you take charge , you could recruit the best candidates even if the academic profile may not be excellent,win battles,lead organizations and becomes a star.

Interesting personascope that gives all away.....................

United States Of India(USI)

India...again at this rate if they continue to ape USA they are soon going to arrive at a destination called USI.In short going to US is by Auto, taxi, Bus or volvo, if not a train and or a plane.See how simple the govt.of India is making things for you.The travel to US was out of reach for many , but now slowly and steadily we will have a familiar terrain.29th state of Telangana, 4 more from UP,1 from Maharashtra and who knows Mumbai too??We have 5-6  in a row and counting.

Imagine we have a Presidential election across the nation for only 2-3 candidates that too after TV and public debates and taking their gloves off not literally which they might do!!.First they will have to learn english or chaste Hindi.Then to appeal to the minorities they will have to attend all their parties and learn their traditions,attend mass, without rubbing anyone on the wrong side.Thereafter they will get confused with languages, dialects,colour, caste and sub caste and wonder who to ask for a vote.Eventually it may have a good effect.The urban and educated voters will vote 100% and that will make the difference.We will not have Mc Babbars @12 rs but real voters who know ground reality.To educate the masses the Presidential candidates will ensure they will do all that it takes to get maximum people to vote and hence provide basic education for them, which is a  long pending promise..Then we will have governors-Ala Schwarzenegger with country made pistols though as in UP and Bihar instead of the AK 47 etc.Then we will see the states too coming out overwhelmingly to ensure they get the right candidates and hopefully we have a better representation.

We still have a long way to go to the 50 states( 21 short)....com'on guys there is a lot to do to break India into pieces.Go ahead.But don't lose hope , we in India can do anything.Jugaad as they call it in local lingo.1683 mother tongues!!!850 are in daily use and 21 languages are officially recognised by GOI.That may go up too.Whew!!

We are catching up and one day going to achieve this for sure.God bless India.Lets start painting the Presidential Palace white for a start.Who knows!!!Whats next>>>I am learning english and attending debates .Optimism at its peak.

Clean chit

The word clean has to be redefined as in India it seems to be given to the dirtiest of people, most corrupt, cruel, egoistic and adamant blokes.The cleanliness that comes from detergents and other chemicals I can understand but clean chits for scams, rapes, murder and illegal activities is atrocious.

Srini clean chit, R .bhaiya clean chit Rathod clean chit,IPL bookies clean chit................If that is already pre decided then why all that farce.This is annoying, insulting to every citizen of India and we are tolerating this nonsense.A tainted Rajyasabha MP goes to jail and gets reinstated to her initial position!!!!Are  we so seriously short of good members??

As sincere citizens we have to face the flak for many a things and go through the grind be it police, be it law, or even a simple transaction in a government office.Others can flout all rules and regulations and yet come out clean.!!

Morning headlines, TV breaking news and sick debates drive you mad and we wonder is that all that is that makes news??Throw out an honest IAS officer, kill a superintendent engineer working on a controversial project, or a principal who refuses to take responsibility for the death of 22 kids in a midday meal scheme.

My  India............i am ashamed to be a part of you.Everyday puts me back many years and I wonder this country with a fantastic cultural and historical background that runs into centuries is going to the dogs......................