I happened to be interacting with a lot of youngsters and a few newly married ladies during my professional tenure who worked with me as my colleagues.During these interactions and free flowing discussions which we always encourage so as to bring in a healthy culture and trust between fellow members, i noticed ,that a lot of the female colleagues had aspirations, dreams,energy and passion to do and show something in life and ever ready to take up new challenges.This was seen and accomplished on the professional front ,but on the personal space it appeared that they faced mega challenges.The in-law syndromes and the pressures that she has to face on a daily basis, be it getting up at 0430 hrs to meet the daily deadlines and the whims and fancies of the in-laws and hubby.Little does anyone realize that the same lady is also a human being and has to toil straight through at home and then at office and on the return to meet deadlines on all fronts.Agreed, she has a role cut for herself post marriage, but not that we cut her off from her desires, dreams, passion, and hobbies.Is that fair?
I have come across instances where the entire salary earned by the wife is immediately gobbled up by the hubby or the in laws into the so called family kitty, leaving peanuts for the lady who earns to spend on her self.If she needs something what could be rightfully hers , its questioned so much that the charm of acquiring that is lost.Moreover something personal is very embarrassing to disclose to the in laws maybe and yet she has to undergo that month on month.When it came to giving her an incentive she pleads and says" can you please give that as a cash component, so that it doesn't reflect in my bank statement"!!!!If it would that would straight go to the common fund where she has no right to use.. In some cases people dont have the time or inclination to take the partner out for a honeymoon???????Too much work you see!!!!!The thought of spending some private moments , with the person one loves or is married to, irrespective of knowing each other before marriage, this is the best time to know each other.What can one say.The frustrations are enormous.If the in laws make it worse with the mama's boy syndrome then god save this family.The hubby on one side speaks about giving the freedom of expression and action to his spouse but on ground realities are poles apart.The male ego is the biggest hurdle in all such situations and must be busted or kept aside for a healthy life and future.
One has to give these couples a few liberties and help them set up their lives in the initial years.They have enough stress levels at work and if these are not the stress buster things what else can there be??
I have come across people seeking comfort and attention from others and who ever is willing to lend them a shoulder they lean on them so quickly that one could take undue advantage of such situations leading to unfortunate circumstances leading to early divorces.This is fast increasing and is alarming.The western culture rub offs, the ideas of freedom and the peer pressures are all leading to this dangerous debacle.
I have come across instances where the entire salary earned by the wife is immediately gobbled up by the hubby or the in laws into the so called family kitty, leaving peanuts for the lady who earns to spend on her self.If she needs something what could be rightfully hers , its questioned so much that the charm of acquiring that is lost.Moreover something personal is very embarrassing to disclose to the in laws maybe and yet she has to undergo that month on month.When it came to giving her an incentive she pleads and says" can you please give that as a cash component, so that it doesn't reflect in my bank statement"!!!!If it would that would straight go to the common fund where she has no right to use.. In some cases people dont have the time or inclination to take the partner out for a honeymoon???????Too much work you see!!!!!The thought of spending some private moments , with the person one loves or is married to, irrespective of knowing each other before marriage, this is the best time to know each other.What can one say.The frustrations are enormous.If the in laws make it worse with the mama's boy syndrome then god save this family.The hubby on one side speaks about giving the freedom of expression and action to his spouse but on ground realities are poles apart.The male ego is the biggest hurdle in all such situations and must be busted or kept aside for a healthy life and future.
One has to give these couples a few liberties and help them set up their lives in the initial years.They have enough stress levels at work and if these are not the stress buster things what else can there be??
I have come across people seeking comfort and attention from others and who ever is willing to lend them a shoulder they lean on them so quickly that one could take undue advantage of such situations leading to unfortunate circumstances leading to early divorces.This is fast increasing and is alarming.The western culture rub offs, the ideas of freedom and the peer pressures are all leading to this dangerous debacle.
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