Crossroads

In life we keep coming to so many crossroads, or junctions where we need to take important decisions that may lead to a complete 360degree shift in your plans.Actually speaking its the conflict in our mind of the result we are wishing and aiming for against the possible outcome.We always are willing to accept and assume the adverse circumstances and keep worrying about it.That pushes us in a hole that makes you see the darkness around inspite of sunlight outside.The more we think negative the more we burrow and tend to go into hibernation mode.

When one does reach the cross road don't stand in the middle or else you will be run over by tonnes of thoughts passing the expressway of decisions.As you do on any road , stand by the edge of the pavement from where you have arrived and look at the pedestrian crossing.It has alternate white stripes that makes you think" Now you see me , now you don't".Look at the other end and imagine the terrain and stability of the terrain you wish to tread on.Look left and look right before you step out.Once you step out don't turn back what ever may happen.Choose and make your choice , before you put that foot forward.Don't wait endlessly watching the crowds pass by as the time given to you by almighty is limited and every second matters.He has not asked you to run a 100 meters dash as Usain bolt but definitely try to run the four minute mile marathon.All the other passerby are also doing the same.Some keep gaping at others, some take a bus ride, some wait for the tram, some just plain simple cross the road and keep walking.The idea is , do you have an objective, a goal set in your personal and professional life that helps you take a direction.If you know the direction , keep moving and encounter all hurdles on the way bravely and wisely so that you reach your goal .That is destined and you will.No shortcuts exisit.Your attitude must be," It's now or never and I will never give up"!!

If you meet any co- passenger on the way, take him/her along and use their competencies to assist you and take you to your goals .Keep walking...........use all means of transport till you get spiritually transported on the 4th dimension and onward to bliss and eternal happiness where no crossroads exists.

BOTTOM LINE

This is a big learning in my life and this term is used in Businesses and on the professional front so often that we tend to lose the meaning or importance at times.I remember , years ago in one of my professional meetings with my Managing Director of the company I worked with had stated"Don't tell me the story , tell me the bottom line".The crux of the situation is , have we done what is expected of us or not.Yes or No!!Ask many a people and they will start with a long winding story of how they had to face their biggest ordeal of their life ,or tried to do something which was extraordinary and yet ....the goal wasn't achieved.The reality is ....it wasn't achieved and that should have been the starting point.We need to be precise and to the point as the Germans are.Cut the flab......

People love to chew on the cud and make that story a long winding one that goes on and on and not reaching the desired goal.Is it because they are scared to own up that they couldn't do something?Is it because we want to make a small story big and earn brownie points by exaggerating the points and underline our so called achievement?Yes , it could be either ways.

Ask a question."Why are you late?" and you will have a long story with tons of excuses in the pipeline.The truth however is completely different.Precision in this communication also indicates the sharp intellect and no nonsense personality one is dealing with.

When you set the expectations from your team , always make this clear....Tell me the bottom line....If I have any questions, I will explore and figure out .Otherwise , only tell me, what i want to know.The crisp answers , also make you think sharp and spend less energy on long drawn unwanted vocabulary that leads you no where, and eventually may get kicked out of the window, especially if you have that kind of a Boss. 

facade

There is the truth and reality on one side in life and then there is a facade.However thin it may be but it exists, I presume in everybody.

One tries his level best to live his own life and on his as well as his loved ones terms to the best possible extent.Many a times , we adjust , adapt and try to smother out the creases to avoid conflicts and unpleasant situations.We restrain ourselves to ensure that the overall harmony of the place is maintained.We try to drive logic as we may see it practical and also try to help our loved ones to take a decision and not decide for them.Yet , many a times , inspite of all these efforts , we find that the same people tend to take us for granted or behind our back behave differently.This exposes the facade under which they live.That hurts.

One may try to stay away and ignore the same but somewhere deep within you feel that is that really what we deserve.We give enough and more freedom for the Gen-X to live their lives, take decisions and prepare for their future, be it academically or otherwise.They are never put under pressure to outperform anybody or be an A grader all the time as what is more important is to be smart and a good Human being.It helps.After all this and minimizing the so called perceived interference of the adults as the Gen-X feels, they still crib.What can one say?Immaturity, dissatisfaction, peer pressures, stress,external influences?

That , one day they too will realise this and will have to go through this is a fact.Wish they understand and realize the great advantage they have in having adults at home who give them the respect and space to live life at their own terms , even though they are dependent on us.
God bless them and help them cruise through .

battle of the bulge

This is apt for all places where you hear the tread mills groan and the jogger parks that get eroded because of the excessive pressures exerted by the "heavy weights" on mother earth.

Some are just obese genetically and need workouts to size them up and some keep adding weight to throw it around with the junk foods and have daily chores, that are termed as "couch potatoes" n the society.

People are struggling and spending tonnes of monies to shed weight and do all kinds of lifts and tucks that cost a bomb, or sweat over the treadmills till they smoke.But with a healthy balanced food habit one can do so naturally and that infact saves money and time.

People need to seek clothes that are "xxx" size and have special stores , they wear jeans that drop to the waist and stretch your imaginations.Why don't people realize the embarrassment they cause to themselves and others.I saw in Detroit the people with jeans dropping below the waists and almost hitting the knee levels.

This is not any specific campaign against the obese, but a warning to the community that its high risk, high cholestrol and a threat to life.Don't drag your self or treat it casually .Take steps at the early years of life so that it doesn't trouble you later.

exer-sizing

Men will be men.I belong to the same community but was amazed to see the consistency across borders and continents and even when one is suppose to be on a fitness drive in a jogging park.What point I am trying to drive at is the attention and focus the males have on the fairer sex is an example of power  meditation.They are so glued and fixd on their goals that if ever they were to apply the same energy at work they would come out with flying colors every time.This is termed as Sizing.When clubbed with hands and feet movements its called exer-sizing!!!!!

A group of enterprising fitness freaks form a circle and do warming, stretching exercises under the supervision of an instructor who is @56 years or more at the jogger park I go to every morning.The main exercises are of the neck and back and power yoga as well.When its time with the neck exercise, they seemed locked many a times in a certain direction especially when a nice looking female walks pass.This post is not sexist but just observations that make you smile.Its so evident and I wonder how naturally we pick up all the "good" things that start the "bad" habits.The necks don't get strained and the backs when stretched can challenge a full stretched parrot reaching out for a fruit.The older the shoulder, the greater the swing and trust me they may develop aches and pains later at home and apply gels and ayurvedic oils but no complains ever.The next day they are back in action with more rigor.

The outfits worn can also be a reason for exercising the eyes and the  neck muscles.The tongue also gets a workout as it has to talk about it.The facial muscles are stretched and exercised.The brain goes in top gear.The hair follicles get massaged and the whole body wonders " wow, what a feeling"!!

This is what takes place and is called multitasking in professional lingo.I know the women folks may not like this though I am equally confident that they are fully aware of this and do take a note of it .Have fun reading the post and enjoy life as it happens.Cruise!!!!!!!!!!!

BCCI(bed of cricket corruption INDIA)

Shams ,Scams and the story continues.What a set of shamless people , who have no spines and have the audacity to care a damn about 1.2 billion people.Money, havala,off shore deposits,politics and the pangs of power , even put fevicol to shame.

People just don't have the guts to step down and come clean if they really are.They play with the sentiments of the people, only care about selfish interests and keep scratching each others backs till they form Tattoos.Anything that has INDIA in it has to be full of scum.I am ashamed to be a citizen of a country where no one cares a damn and prevail.People run out of options and nominate the same tainted people to scrutinize the wrong doings ??What a shame.

Seeing the comments on TV and the emotional outbursts on various channels it only appears that like the rape case this to will die down and we are back to business.Thats life.

RTI, Courts and legal systems, ED, CBI all are just tools and the real intent is only to give employment to stooges who will be yes men.Not a single cricketeer, senior, junior or established ( except Sachin) expressed his views , subtly though and more subjectively in print.Doesn't help, but atleast a face saving action for the team members.Forex found in cricket club lockers by ED in the past got closed without any action .Bettings and scandals were pushed under the carpet.The IT doesn't check these people out.The Azars and Jadejas  went scot free.Others are being used as pets ,where they will never ever go against their MASTERS.......

SAD day for the entire Nation.