harakiri

I had an encounter with the medical fraternity in my Town where I had to visit for 7 days to keep an update with a patient who was hospitalized.Being a near and dear one one tries to ensure we look at the basic aspects of hygiene and cleanliness as well as peace in terms of a good surrounding that keeps the moral of the patient high.I was lucky to have found that and was pleased to note that it actually existed in such places like hospitals.Process centric workplace as it appeared and that really put a smile on my face and made me relax a bit till I went beyond the window dressing.

And Lo!The truth revealed.All that glitters is not gold.When you noticed that the support staff that takes instructions from the main doctors were very casual about the way they issued instructions down the line.The sense of urgency was missing.Maybe they are so used to this day in day out that the urgency simply disappears.I don't blame them entirely but then the Hypocritic oath that they take or even the passion and empathy they are suppose to exhibit is lacking.The sisters were found to be amateurs and were under training.Training at the expense of my loved one???If the so called staff under training asks me "should I give the antibiotic now??or is the insulin dose correct??How to fill asthalin in the nebulizer?Is the saline injected properly in the vein and how does one tackle the patient with empathy especially when the oxygen tubes are to be inserted etc.The sheer display of amateur behavior at a point where one needs assurance and confidence makes you go ballistic.How on earth can one be so careless?Aren't you playing with ones life?What proof do I have if a single error is fatal?How do you counter any instructions given by this fraternity ?Then comes the support staff which are non technical-The ward boys.Made to work for 24 hours ( double shifts) leading to lack of concentration and intent to really assist the patient and the speed or urgency of meeting the requirements missing makes you wonder ,why you pay so much to get such Substandard services.What a mess?If you bring this to the notice of the administration, the patient will have to face the consequences.!There are many good people as well, i don't deny but the presence of such novices in critical care experimenting on human lives is unacceptable.

How can one ensure that they are adequately trained to handle patients who need critical care?Who monitors them?What about an error taking place?Do they have proper mentors who are accountable?Do they give enough confidence to the patient before they experiment?Many questions.....awaiting answers!!

satyameva jayate---jaise the

This program has caught the attention and fancy of many an audience in India and they are talking about it.Yes Amir has done an excellent job of spreading awareness about various topics prevailing for years in India.

The moot point is .Do we have the heart and will to fight this?Is awareness not there?Are we so blind that we don't see this happening daily?Are we so dumb that we cannot visualize this ?Are we so stupid not to realise the cause and effects of such things happening in our society?The Indian mentality is such that we like to see such sensational stuff on TV, like to gossip for hours may be even have an intellectual debate and then go doing the same things that are prevalent.We are so insensitive that we just care a damn.It doesn't matter if the gen next gets affected.Only if this generation takes things up to save their future will things change.But the young generations hands are so full of things to achieve and create and impress the society at large that they concentrate only on the frills and forget the basics.They don't seem to have anytime for this .Now what?Who takes care?Anna Hazare-Department of corruption, Baba Ramdev-Health and political affairs,Aamir Khan-Department of Social welfare and Mass entertainment,Medha patkar-Dept of never ending irrigation projects .The public at large will keep adding eyeballs and money will be raked in by these departments .All fasts, protests, jail bharo andolans will attract footfalls and media blitzkrieg thus helping amul butter and MDH masalas to sell more.Wow!!!This is how our economy grows and it doesn't matter therefore if petrol prices shoot through the roof.A few murmurs here and there and then life continues.This is the same way people will yap, yap and then life will continue.Aamir got his share of the profits, media attention, and can be rest assured of his next movie being a huge commercial success.He met the PM and the CM and they promised him the world or gave him the "assurance" of things will be "taken care ".God save this place.

rendevouz

To find true friends in this world is really difficult and if you do find them being true friends for life is something very few people are blessed with in my opinion.

These could be from childhood and then last  all the way through to the next generations as well connecting in this network.This friendship  could be starting mid way in your college or professional career and then last you through marriage etc.The person who you can share your heart and soul, bare your thoughts and intentions, cry your heart out and expose that vulnerable moment which your ego might not allow you to do so otherwise.They may be present across the globe and may be connecting virtually today more than the physical presence.This is true but the genuine feeling for each other and the relations nurtured over the years being through thick and thin, is the real essence.However successful each one might be , based on bookish definitions or the social standings which are nothing but hollow and warped, one must never forget the respect and regard for each other without  a sense of dominance or submission present in any of their transparent interactions.The levelheadedness, the maturity, the behavior patterns keep changing with circumstances, but without underestimating anyone and acknowledging his presence one must adapt and adjust to the circumstances especially when one has the opportunity to reunite after years.Coming from places around the world, with their kids in tow,it is such an awesome feeling to spend even a day ,breaking away from your routine just to bask in that joy.

Imagine if any of these members suddenly behave uptite and erratic and tries to make a simple thing look complex and assuming a role of dominance in the itinerary planned or meetings to take place without regard to the others!!You get a sense of anger, frustration, desperation,and also throttled  effect as you have so many plans and exciting options in front of you yet small trivial issues are created .leading to a situation that is quite uncalled for..You remember all the good old days where you had your share of fights etc but today with so many years behind and an opportunity of a lifetime to meet everyone with kids and all is being ruined because of one irrational being.What must you do?Drop him like a Hot potato from the gathering??Compromise the times and schedules of 20 plus people for him??Or slam him for being irrational and driving sense into his head to be more reasonable and consider others around him as well.AAH! how I hate this??

Bloated Egos, especially when the parents of this friend of ours express this so often to us when we meet them,citing instances of tough times they face today .Its hard to digest that people can change and harden up due to false notions or beliefs that make them feel superior to other mankind.On the other hand we have such a gem of a person very Humble and down to earth for years in this same group.Amazing.He is ready to flex and align as much as  a fresh rubber plant twig.That too is an extreme I agree but under the circumstances is aggression right, or passive and assertive behavior required.For me , its time to take the pin and deflate those eggheads and show them the ground realities where we use to share the same cup of tea as we were unable to afford individual cups .Blow the living daylights and get everyone on the table with no exception.

rising stars

We see a lot of reality shows and especially those that target the "youngsters",the budding rising stars etc.Is that really a right way to promote these young minds?They have talent no doubt.Some of them are exceptional,The entire world watches them.Great.The dance choreography done by the kids and expressions given for raunchy numbers etc must be effecting the young minds somewhere.They are not mature enough to handle these situations and may effect them in many ways.The parents push or encourage them at times,sometimes go overboard with their child and what that leads to is over expectations or failures and rejections that might get deep rooted in their minds.This is at a time when his mind is growing and developing and once certain fixed ideas are set they may be a positive effect but many negatives for sure.Success may be difficult to handle, parents may take all the earnings and make the child think that he is being deprived of what is logically his .The innocence may get lost and bring about other emotions and psychological disturbances that might ruin his life.Will he be able to lead a normal life should he not grow  into an adult megastar when he has success at a young age? Academics may be his last priority?Money sets up other vices and they become difficult to control.The odd shooting hours deprives them of sleep and many other things that they must enjoy as a child.

Are we pushing our next generations too much?Are we creating excess pressure on them and an artificial environment that makes them over competitive at a young age?It may definitely inculcate a good quality in terms of being competitive , but to what extent?Do we counsel them professionally to make them realize the pro's and con's of the lifestyle?

No doubt the exposure today through the web and TV is phenomenal and that its difficult to restrict content.However the repercussions  may not be visualized now and may impact the gen next..Sex, criminal mind, jealousy,would start dominating in an already pressure cooked world.Too many things too fast may hit a dead end and fast.Its like professional burnout at the start of a career.Early disappointments, a cruel world, quick money and easy way out to spend and get into bad debts with no money management skills may be the resultant.Fast cars, fast women, fast life,travel, 24x7 Work culture and exhaustion.That leads to steroids,drugs,cigarettes, booze,and coffee to keep you going that leads to high doctor bills ,medications , etc that is the start of the end of the so called good days.

High alert required in my opinion.Exercise caution and take a stock of the situation before we push the envelope.

withering heights

Old age .The phase where anxieties are on the rise.Every day is a bonus.Different perspectives and way of viewing at life starts taking place in the minds of the people.One can look at the balance life with a positive frame of mind and relinquish the excess baggage of so many years.Alternately, one continues to drag his or her feet with that burden of unwanted baggage and keep paying for it as you trudge along the last lap.

We may  have had a rich past and a flamboyant life style and now you are at such a juncture that the aches and pains don't allow you to keep pace with that and they creak and squeak depending on the degree of flamboyance you may have exhibited in your hey days.The Mercedes Benz may not be as comfortable on the long journey as it used to be because of a delicate back or a cervical issue.The five star food may not be palatable any longer as diabetes and BP are happily enjoying   their stay in your structural abode.Popping medicines by the dozens may be part and parcel of routine life.The use of artificial equipment to support your walk of life may be an integral part of your life style now, than the golf kit in the good old days.Dependency on one and all may be reality and the inability to do things the way you would have liked to is a dream almost.A pain here and an ache there, a swelling here or palpitation that sets your heart aflutter.We have no choice but to live through that phase as its destined.

I believe if we are relieved from  this faster and at an appropriate time without being a burden of any sorts on our loved ones ,it would be so nice for self and others.But based on your karma each one is associated with the other either as the doer or receiver who goes through, willingly or otherwise and experiences his journey of life.The difference being the wealthy may spend their last minutes in swanky hospitals in special suites  and blow their money anyway to ultimately meet at heavens doors ,whereas the poor may languish in pain and yet take the same train to heaven.

What happens to those assets, liquid cash, bonds, deposits, shares etc ????Now you see me , now you don't!!!How long we had  held it in possession expecting it to deliver the top returns predicted.Just yesterday they were to jump up many folds and deliver a bonus but...........would we be there tomorrow to enjoy the fruits???The bunglows, the cars, the jewellery, etc etc..............all in vain.The 20 days of travelling and 18hrs of work you put in every day for 25 years all seem to vanish in a second.We read in the books by great authors,live every moment and rather die once than die every day etc etc.At times its nice if we wake up from the dream world we live in and realise the purpose of life.Rather than loosing your prime time to fragile attractions, if we devote it to living our fullest in what gives us a sense of contentment and accomplishment of having achieved a small but useful thing in life that made each day better for you or somebody else in this world.Accept gracefully what  comes your way and live and let live.Let realization dawn on humanity and make the world a better place that God wanted to see probably.